father had several presents under the tree and their were no presents for his girls, and he open them in front them in front of them, the grandmother did go in her room and get money a small amount and put it in a card for all 3 of them, and told my oldest is 17 they didn't have time to get a gift card or gift, but she had time to get all of the other grandchildren presents>
2007-01-05 09:07:12 · 10 answers · asked by broken 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
don't have any relationship with them. you should consider your kids feelings. I think it is better for them not to see them instead of getting heart like this.
2007-01-05 09:10:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think thats atrocious. They should not even be going over there. I would bring this up with your ex and tell how that made your daughters feel, better yet,,,let them tell their Dad how it made them feel, and also let them tell the grandparents or write them a thank you card and explain it all in that. Yes I know that was a big run-on sentence. When my little half brother and I were little (same Mom different Dad's even though this Dad is the only Dad I've ever known) we had an aunt on my step-dad's side who would only bring a present for my brother and not me. When I was 9 years old one Christmas eve I over heard her talking to my other aunts and she said, "Are you going to get Heather something? "I didn't" "She's not a real Miller." I was shattered inside and so was my mother when I told her what my aunt said. The next Christmas this so-called "aunt" brought me this ugly purple action figure because she felt like she HAD to bring me something. I don't know what happened to it but I know I didn't keep it.
2007-01-05 17:16:59 · answer #2 · answered by up_all_night 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be very upset. That's not right. I'd personally talk to my
children. Ask them how they felt. If they are angry, feel hurt, left out, or what ever. Tell them it is ok to be mad at the grandparents and okay to feel hurt. Then offer them the chance
to write a letter to the grandparents explaining their feelings.
If they do not want to visit, again. That should be okay with you.
If that's the case call your ex and explain that the children no longer ish to visit his parents because they treat them so differently from their other grandchildren.
If you have full custody, you can just put your foot down about any more visits.
If you have joint custody, you may have to get your ex to agree not to force them to go.
2007-01-05 17:14:56 · answer #3 · answered by txharleygirl1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go! Life is too short...my grandmother was a complete a** to me for no reason and treated all the grandkids differently. It had little to do with me (because I was so young I couldn't have offended her) and more to do with my dad. Not my problem though - her loss! I have a son and an ex and my son is treated differently but oh well! My family treats him like gold and he will grow up knowing that he is the greatest boy on the planet! Life isn't fair, but don't try to get in the middle of it. Your kids are related to these people and they will learn to deal with it. And if they are jerks your kids will learn that too (you don't need to tell them) and they will get on with their lives and hopefully learn that sort of stuff hurts and therefore will treat others well and fair!
2007-01-05 17:16:14 · answer #4 · answered by Littlesby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
damit damit damit those poor things i would never forgive someone like that i am so sorry that was so cruel. Dont really say anything yet intill they do it again if you want more advice my email is littlecooldude96@yahoo.com i have a husband too too but Rick is perfect and i have twin girls and boy trippilets . I am a mother too.
2007-01-05 17:30:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree if someone did that to my kids i wouldn't go around there anymore. You need to have a little chit chat with the dad and tell him how you feel. That is wrong. Good luck and God bless
2007-01-05 18:02:50 · answer #6 · answered by chiefs fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is really sad. I would say something. Obviously if they had time to shop for others they could have picked things up for all the grandkids. I wouldn't subject my kids to that kind of treatment.
2007-01-05 17:28:46 · answer #7 · answered by bzas1girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is really sad. I hope their father feels like crap because of it. I wouldn't ever want them to go back to those people's house again.
2007-01-05 17:09:52 · answer #8 · answered by I know, I know!!!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is horrible. i am so sorry for that. as mean as it sounds, if they couldn't think of your childern then maybe it is time to not spend time with them anymore
2007-01-05 17:10:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's creap i'd be in there face like crazy if my ex did that to my kid's
2007-01-05 17:10:14 · answer #10 · answered by pumpkinbugaboo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋