Possible future daughter-in-law not Christian - what do we do?

Question

OK, I'm probably borrowing trouble, but my son's girlfriend has been a part of the Salvation Army faith all her life (her parents are both employed by the Salvation Army). In talking with her, I found out they do not believe in baptism, therefore, they are not confirmed, either. Now, if my son were to marry this girl, do I/we have any say as to whether their children are baptized? I strongly believe in baptism. I haven't talked to my son about this, but I am in a very awkward place. I really like the girlfriend, and don't want religion to become a bone of contention. Is there a happy medium?

Answer 1

This is a hard subject. My husband is orthodox and believes in infant Baptism and I am a evangelical and believe in believers baptism (baptism as an adult). Before we married we discussed it and I told my husband he could have any children we have baptised if it is important to him.

As many have already pointed out you are not really in a position to force this issue you if you want a good relationship with your son, daughter in law and future grandchildren. I think would be appropriate to express your concerns to your son but not to his wife. He can then take it into concideration as he sees fit.

I don't know that much about the Salvation army but I know they do a lot for people in the name of God so I don' t think you can say they are not Christians. I don't think God is so cruel as to send people to hell who were not so fortunite as to be baptised in the Catholic faith. Sorry I had to add that as a protestant.

I hope it all works out though.

Answer 2

Are you attempting to appreciate what is going to take place in the experience that your daughter converts? You wrote that they boy's relatives is in Israel, so i anticipate that he's Israeli and that a conversion could be a typical Orthodox conversion. Is the boy from a non secular relatives? secular? classic? the place is his relatives initially from? what's their ethnicity? in the experience that your daughter makes a decision to transform IN Israel, she will have the potential to might desire to computer screen a typical Jewish way of existence and study Judaism for a comparatively long quantity of time, a minimum of a few months. she will have the potential to study approximately Jewish background, some Hebrew, and approximately a thank you to maintain Shabbat, the Sabbath, and Kashrut, Jewish nutritional regulations. the expectancy would be that she will have the potential to stay as a non secular Jew. If the boy and/or the boy's relatives isn't non secular, she won't be non secular interior the top, of direction. If yur daughter is thinking changing then it can be a stable theory for her to get in touch with a rabbi interior the closest Jewish community. This Jewissh boy might desire to, even if, have the potential to provide you some common techniques approximately Judaism and conversion. If he can not, he might desire to start looking into it on your daughter! stable luck.

Answer 3

How sanctimonious of you! Lets see you could just completely alienate your son by letting him know that the love of his life is not "your kind of Christian" that would work and be a big plus since then you would leave them alone and let them live their own lives. I am sooooooooooo glad I don't have to deal with the whole religion aspect of liking or not liking someone, I would have a lot less friends I am sure. Variety is the spice of life.

Answer 4

Well, lots of people have no problem with going through the actions to make relatives happy. You can always ASK. But you can't say a thing if you don't like it. That's up to the parents.

Maybe your son doesn't believe in baptism, either.

If you don't want religion to be an issue, don't make it an issue.

Answer 5

If you love your son, you will love his wife. It is absolutely NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS how they raise THEIR children and it would absolutely be the most offensive thing to even suggest they have THEIR children babtized. You are the mother and would be the grandmother of the children. If you interfere, you will more than likely be cut out of their lives. BELIEVE HOW YOU WANT, BUT ALLOW OTHERS TO DO THE SAME.

I'm NOT babtized and I know I am no better or worse of a person than you.

Answer 6

Love her, show her kindness and don't but into their relationship. Live by example and have faith in God that everything will turn out okay.

But it's not okay to just but into their lives, it will only drive your son away.

Answer 7

Salvation army last i checked was run by christians, even if shes not then i wouldnt try to convert her or her kids because YOU feel its right, thats just rude.

Answer 8

this is where you let your son and his wife to be work out what they want to do with THEIR children. you have had yours, you need to let them make decisions. they are adults now, you need to let them act like adults.

this decision should be theirs and no one elses.

fyi, just because they dont believe in baptism does NOT mean they arent christian. infact baptism is NOT a major part of christianity. it is only a symbol of rebirth. starting one's life anew for christ. but it is NOT a requirement of christianity. nowhere in the bible does it say if you are not baptised you will go to hell.

Answer 9

It's your son's problem, he'll find a way around it, if he really wants his child to be baptized, it will happen, if he doesn't care that much then it won't happen.

Answer 10

you have no say-so in weather or not they baptize their children.
that would be asking for trouble.if you like her well enough then that should be enough. i suppose you could talk to your son about it but really, if he wants his kids baptized then that is something he should discuss with his girl. you may be jumping to conclusions anyway.she could be fine with it. did you like it when your mother in law put her two cents in?