lately I ve been home cause I had a baby 1 year ago. And I didn't go back to work . therefore I have all this time on hands. And lack of Social life. I see kids all day.. Not any real adult converstation. I've been like this for a year now. I want to get out of this rut I'm in. and get back in the swing of things. But my brain is lazy. And I can barely do normal task through out the day. Can you relate.
2007-01-05 08:53:13 · 12 answers · asked by Sassy M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yep. I'm a stay at home dad, and I can totally relate. I've taken my daughter to storytimes at the library, but the moms just wanna talk about kid stuff.
Best thing to do is try to get out one night a week to have time for yourself. That's worked for me. My wife watches my daughter and I hit a bookstore or someplace and just soak up the "adultness" of it all.
Good luck!
2007-01-05 08:58:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been through the very same thing. The longer I went without being around other adults the worse it got. The only thing that will help you is if you make yourself get out and do things. Get a babysitter, or find out where there is a 'mother's morning out' near you and go do something. Even if it's going to the library or joining a morning book club, you will be away from home. The more you do it, the more you'll enjoy it. But you've also got to think of it this way; is this the type of life you want your child to have? She learns social skills from her parents. If you don't have any friends how will she learn to become a friend. It's very important to give children a well rounded life for them to emulate. .
2007-01-05 09:01:35 · answer #2 · answered by QWERTY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I start a new job on Monday but since I have had a little bit of time off my mind has gone crazy. I feel depressed about everything b/c I just can't stop thinking about every tiny thing in my life. I know how you feel and it is hard. I feel tired all the time from thinking. I think you should find someone to go out with sometime or talk to.
2007-01-05 09:06:33 · answer #3 · answered by dmbfiredancer64 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I can!!!! I have been in your situation. I stayed home when my first child was born for the first two years. In the beginning it was nice, relaxing in some ways (not worring about work, coworkers, drama in the workplace). But it got very lonely, the only other adult I got to see and hold any kind of conversation with was my husband, but that was after he'd been at work all day! I lost all my energy, like it took everything out of me to get up and put a load of clothes on to wash. It was very draining for me, although I loved being at home with my baby, I needed more for ME!!! I lost my idenity. Know I have two children, we make it work. I work a full time job, and I still feel guilty from time to time but I have to remind myself Im doing it for them. The only advice I can give is to take time for yourself! If not while your spouse is home, then when you put your baby down for a nap!! Take a long bubble bath, go shopping by yourself or take walks, get up and put makeup on and do your hair not for anyone else but you!!! Things like that seemed to help me get more energy and feel more like a woman and not just a mom!
2007-01-05 09:27:08 · answer #4 · answered by Nacole 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just described my life (lol)!
I am a mother to a 3 yr old and 7 yr old, and have stayed home full time for about 4+ years... but now I am going back to school. I figure my days of staying home are going to have to end when my smallest gets in school, so why not have a career that I will like doing. I have enrolled at my local community college to get my Associates of Applied Science, to be a RN. I feel so much better about myself and I am actually looking forward to it! There are a lot of positives to going back to school.
2007-01-05 09:07:05 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and I think of all my past mistakes and start wearing myself down. The only thing to do is somehow keep busy. Maybe find a hobby of some sort?
2007-01-05 08:56:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sometimes i get so bored that i over think stuff, but you sound like you need help and not in a bad way, i mean you need to go out and make some new friends, call people and chat on the phone.
2007-01-05 08:57:21 · answer #7 · answered by Gorgeous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only being 12 i think about the perfect future 4 me. is that relating?
2007-01-05 08:59:37 · answer #8 · answered by Darkstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes we all think way too much....try to get out...get a babysitter and go out
2007-01-05 09:06:39 · answer #9 · answered by Artemis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mother n law can relate ! she has plenty of time to conjure up **** ! & try to mind our business !!
2007-01-05 15:03:22 · answer #10 · answered by Barbie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋