Alright so my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and 3 months. There's this boy in on of my classes that wrote me a note saying I was pretty and whatnot, which infuriated my boyfriend. Now this other boy wants to hang out tonight and I would like to, but I know my boyfriend wouldn't like that at all. I told the note boy that I was already taken, so he knows that. He seems like a really nice guy so I would like to hang out with him, but just as friends, not to hook up or anything like that. I don't know what to do :( Please help.
2007-01-05 08:49:27 · 23 answers · asked by Danica 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If your boyfriend means the world to you (which he should) respect him and don't go out with the other guy. If you really want his friendship, you would bring your boyfriend along to something all of you could do. Tell the note guy that you are bringing your boyfriend. If he thinks that is weird, he probably wants to be more than friends. If you are interested in the note guy and don't care what your boyfriend thinks, get rid of your boyfriend first.
2007-01-05 08:53:26 · answer #1 · answered by CPDawg 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Taken means taken. Your boyfriend is already mad about the note and you stated that he wouldn't like it if you went to "hang out" with the other guy. You would be going behind your boyfriends back to be with another guy knowing that he would not approve. That doesn't make for a healthy relationship. The fact that you like the guy makes it even more likely that the "just friends" might lead to something else. How would you feel if your boyfriend got a note like that from a girl and then just wanted to meet up with her as "just friends"?
2007-01-05 16:55:48 · answer #2 · answered by JustMe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow hunny u really are stuck??? Relationships come and go but stay a lady and keep some class! No don't u dare hang out with the other guy... unless you break up with your boyfriend first!!! The "note boy" wants you.. a nd this will cause alot of drama if you open the door.
don't stomp on hearts just drop them. no reason to hurt your boyfriend that way. If I was him and I knew you were thinking about the other guy... we would be threw on the spot! By the way you are pretty... lol I'd date you too!
2007-01-05 16:53:15 · answer #3 · answered by emtyen69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This boy doesn't want mere friendship with you, and it seems like you're curious about where it will lead. I can understand your boyfriend's upset feelings. It would be totally uncool to sneak around behind his back or even expect him to settle for this. Make up your mind. In a real adult relationship, you don't make friends with the singles of the opposite sex when you know that they are attracted to you. You're not going to be able to hold on to your boyfriend and become friends with this note guy at the same time. It's not a bad thing if you think you want to break free of your guy to experience what's out there, in fact, it's a good thing to do so for both of you if you feel that it's neccessary, but don't expect him to wait on you either, especially if it appears that you're leaving him for another guy. It's up to you what to decide.
2007-01-05 17:01:40 · answer #4 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dear.dear.dear. If you really want to make things work with your boyfriend you are going to have to sacrafice. The first sacrafice is not hurting your boyfriends feelings for the instant gratifaction of hanging out with Mr. Note writting Suave'. Men need to feel special and we KNOW there are other men in the world that may sweep our woman off of their feet, but If a man feels like his woman will never have the need to hang out with another man, then he will be comfortable. Also honey... let your boyfriend know how you feel and why you feel that way, If he is any type of real man he would change his ways to please you more so you won't want to hang out with Mr. NOTE SUAVE'.
2007-01-05 16:59:26 · answer #5 · answered by carpentergry 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask yourself this question:
Would you be angry with your boyfriend if he wanted to hang out with a friend (a girl who thought he was cute) tonight?
If you can HONESTLY say that it would not bother you, then you probably can feel okay about hanging out with the "note boy" tonight. But.......can your boyfriend handle this? Do you want to try to explain this to your boyfriend? Can your relationship handle this? You are the only one who knows.
I don't think anyone here can answer this for you, I think the answer is within you.
I have faith in you........you'll figure it out. Good luck.
2007-01-05 16:59:09 · answer #6 · answered by artistagent116 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I won't say follow your heart or follow your head but I will say to follow a combination of the two. Listen to your intuiative feelings. Do you really LOVE your boyfriend? Are you attracted to note boy? Be honest with yourslef.
2007-01-05 17:02:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say hang out with the boy...
if you want to really hurt your boyfriend.
(Or maybe your boyfriend is way of base, and this guy just thinks you're "pretty" as a friend.)
2007-01-05 16:51:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
hmmm thats a real sticky situation.... but if the note boy is cool hang out wid him but in a public place so that nothing can or wont happen. If your bf loves you then he needs to give you some space to have male friends....and besides its always good to have really close male friends
2007-01-05 16:55:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hang out with the guy. If your boyfriend doesn't like it ...that's just tough. Get rid of the boyfriend. Jealous, controlling boyfriends can turn into worse abusive types pretty quickly.
If your boyfriend really loves you and trusts you, he won't mind if you hang out as friends.
If he minds, then you deserve a better boyfriend.
2007-01-05 16:55:38 · answer #10 · answered by txharleygirl1 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋