We have been dating for 1.5 years with future marriage in plain sight. I keep on waiting for something to crash, fall apart, ruin my life... I am so scared because it's so perfect... I love him so, so much and he does the same for me! We're both 19 years old and this is our first relationship ever. Could it be possible that this is it? I want to believe so but I'm so scared to assume things because I feel like I would "jinx" it... But I just keep on praying that this is the one...
Oh, don't get me wrong, we have small dinky fights where we get mad but always make-up before we go to bed, and we've had tons of talks resolving and encouraging each other when we have issues. It's very mutually beneficial. But I'm just afraid to trust that it's so good and happy... Has anyone out there been in a dream-like relationship like this, where it was just bliss throughout the whole journey, and it worked out in the end like a dream?
2007-01-05 08:44:34 · 12 answers · asked by reba 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh, we definitely won't be getting married until we graduate college, in answer to some concerns. :)
2007-01-05 08:49:20 · update #1
At 19 I suggest you both take some time off and just enjoy life. You say there's marriage in your future--congrats! However, these fears aren't going to go away. You both need to work through them together.
Praying that he is the one is fine, but in the end you are going to have to listen to what God is telling you.
Fights are a part of building a relationship. If you don't trust this relationship, you're going to end up failing BECAUSE you don't trust it.
Communicate. Talk to him. Finish college and THEN get married. You both need to learn to love who you are as independent people.
2007-01-05 08:47:43 · answer #1 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy every minute of it. Those are glorious days. You are both 19. You should know that there are three types of love: 1. Puppy love, that you may have experienced in middle school. 2. Then comes an immature love, that is when you are obsessed with your partner and you both know deep down that there is no future. (This kind of love is the best ever). 3. Finally there is the rational love, where you both pick someone suitable for a future together. ( This could include a suitable spouse to start a family with). So I say live today like there is no tomorrow and enjoy every minute.
2007-01-05 16:52:16 · answer #2 · answered by Mikey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a song for Andy williams its called
(( you are to good to be true i just can't take my eyes off you))
what you have is more than great or more than dream it's something rare these days it's good
don't be afraid from what you have
trust your self and trust the one that you love
we all know that there is nothing perfect in this world and so the love so you are like any coupel who are in love
love can bring to us the happiness that we always dreamed of and sometimes love break us and make our heart bleeds the same as life
however don't give up on the first problem you are still young
and live your day moment by moment
no one from us know what the life have for us
love is like a dream so
keep this dream alive and
keep living this dream untill the end or untill it start
but remmber to fight back and always smile and don't give up
to keep your love alive
good luck and if you want my opinion your love will keep on going
because i know a story just like yours and the end was great just like fairytales stories when the prince marry the love of his life or when the princes marry her love life
so enjoy and believe in the love to make it live forever even if you get hurt from love
2007-01-05 17:09:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes relationships work... although your worries are not miss placed.
Things between you and him could fall apart but sometimes for the best. Sometimes your relationship will have a low spot and that's fine. But as long as things are going good; they're going good.
You shouldn't let your worries become a barrier between the two of you. It can happen if you begin to worry over little things. No need to be paranoid just because things are going good.
Over all I think you've got a fine relationship.
2007-01-05 16:53:55 · answer #4 · answered by crispythemighty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are very insecure person which is very common at your age. You can't keep on thinking you are going to break up or else it will happen. Just let things happen and don't worry about thing that MIGHT happen. BE HAPPY and ENJOY your relationship instead of wasting your time worrying about it.
2007-01-05 16:48:20 · answer #5 · answered by Sophie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow...i know lot's of people in this boat. Here's what you need to think about. 50% of marriages end in divorce. Do you think you guys can last 30 years? Do you want to be with this man until you die? You've got your whole life ahead of you. If he proposes in the next couple of years....WAIT!!!! Give it time! If it ends....it ends. But i believe no one should get married before 22.
2007-01-05 16:47:52 · answer #6 · answered by Joe B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless both of you end up making alot of money, the chances of this story ending with a fairy tale ending is less than 30%.
2007-01-05 16:48:18 · answer #7 · answered by my alias 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is great that you feel that way, trust me, I have been with my Boyfriend for 7 years, we have been through alot together. At some point things will change and you will learn from it, you will become closer
2007-01-05 16:47:46 · answer #8 · answered by JenJen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, quit being so negative. You are attracting bad vibes and something bad may happen, instead just live and love until you cant, you dont want any regrets.
2007-01-05 16:53:16 · answer #9 · answered by eunicealarcon05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you pray you must have faith & believe &god will work it out.i felt the same way when me & my spouse first started dating we when though the same thing.But i pray he work it out &guess what?We've now been married for 13 yrs.You are still young just pray & god will work it out.
2007-01-05 16:53:43 · answer #10 · answered by sam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋