My best friend is gorgeous, witty and classy. I can name at least six guys off the bat who like her, one of which is in love with her. She is so stressed and can't deal with all of these guys falling all over her.
She doesn't want to be alone, but she doesn't want to hurt anyone. One of the guys is an ex of hers, the others are friends and admirers. She does have an interest in two of them, but she's so confused.
These guys won't leave her alone. How can I help her?
2007-01-05 08:43:11 · 13 answers · asked by Lucien 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If she's your best friend already you are real close--but she thinks of you as her best friend and not a potential lover.
So you should try to not be her best friend but instead get her to think of you as a lover.
You have about a 5% chance of pulling that off--but if you do the rewards are immense.
2007-01-05 08:52:13 · answer #1 · answered by Mr_B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
:)
i've been there.trust me on that one.
You're best friend dear, is very well off, handling this on her own.
Like you said, she's gorgeous ,"witty" and classy, so im assuming here, that she's not just a good looking bimbo.More then anything , she needs a listener, because im sure it tends to get annoying, having any guy you meet fall for you- so talk to her, let her ease out her stresses with you, and she'll be carefree again.
And besides, a girl who's beautiful and knows it, usually is aware of exactly how to handle herself when she meets new people or has many admirers, i'd say she loves the attention, though it gets tough to stay "on the top" all the time.It's more a phase then anything else.
The only way i can really see you helping her,is by making sure she doesnt get into trouble, numerous admirers can make a girl overconfident and less cautious, so make sure she doesnt decide to have a fling with some guy who just thinks she;s cute, not very safe.Dont give her warnings, or advice, just be a friend and ask her, "do you know that guy?"and she'll answer for herself.
If some guy bugs her too much, i suggest you meet him in the locker room after school, [if he's bigger then you, get a friend. :P)
as for her confusion with two of the people she likes, tell her to get out a pen and a paper and write down her thoughts on paper.
draw a margin, write the guys names in the individual columns and tell her to write down as many characteristics about them that she likes.she'll come to a point where she;ll compare, and if she cant.
double date both, whoever she has fun with more the first date,will give her a headstart on deciding how to judge between them..
its her life dear, sorry to say this, so dont meddle.just be a good strong shoulder she can lean on when her "good looks" get the better of her.
Good luck!
Rave
2007-01-05 16:55:03 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all i think your friend should seriously consider which one of the many guys makes her happy. She wont be hurting anyone if she decides on the one she actually wants and by her thinking that she will hurt them is wrong because they are all actually hurting right now, especially herself. I think you two should sit down and really talk about it. And also tell all these boys what she really feels, it will be hard, trust me, but they need to get out of the way,right? well i hope i was of some help!
2007-01-05 16:47:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
u need to be there for her, i know what u mean i have done the same for some of my friends, if they are stalkeing her and u guys are in school, report, other wise go to the cops, tell them that if they dont stop they will force ur hand, if they dopnt belive u do it, or there is the ever popular *** kicking right
2007-01-05 16:45:43 · answer #4 · answered by legalboy2_2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's lucky to have a friend like you. Just be there for her and don't join the rest of the crowd. Be someone she can turn to, not run away from.
2007-01-05 16:47:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ASK HER to go for the best ..she is not supposed to think that all of them are going to fall for her n dye for her she has to give it a try one by one til she gets the right one
2007-01-05 16:45:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Luc, you are a fantastic friend and as they have said, I am incredibly lucky to have you. I think I can figure this out, but thank you for caring enough to post this.
I'll see you tomorrow.
2007-01-06 05:53:41 · answer #7 · answered by Artemiseos 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just needs to tell these guys that she is not looking to be in a serious relationship.
2007-01-05 16:45:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell the dudes that they are messing her up and that they need to lay off. then if they don't, tell them that she does not like them (with the exception of the two she is interested in) and that they need to get away from her, and get on with their life.
tell the one that is in love with her that he REALLY needs to find commitment with SOMEONE ELSE!
this sounds mean, but its not.
mads
2007-01-05 16:46:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. She has to decide what she wants. She needs to figure out who she wants to date if any of them and go with it. They arn't getting married. Just dating. Don't be sooo dramatic.
2007-01-05 16:45:17 · answer #10 · answered by Jewells 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋