so, my mom received 2 dui's in may of 2006. she has a history of alcoholism. she had her license revoked after receiving the dui's, lives in a somewhat rural area, and my dad is supporting her financially. she has become severally depressed. she went through 2 weeks of rehab, and was released. before thanksgiving, my dad took her to the grocery store, and she stole some wine. she hasn't drank since, but my dad is becoming completely emotionally/financially drained. her legal fees and insurance are ridiculous. she sleeps all day, started taking lexapro, and isn't even helping around the house. what should my dad and i do? my dad is having to take complete care of my siblings (5 & 7), supporting her financially, and is responsible for everything now. what advice should i give my mom? what should my dad do?
2007-01-05 08:40:13 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
so, my mom received 2 dui's in may of 2006. she has a history of alcoholism. she had her license revoked after receiving the dui's, lives in a somewhat rural area, and my dad is supporting her financially. she has become severally depressed. she went through 2 weeks of rehab, and was released. before thanksgiving, my dad took her to the grocery store, and she stole some wine. she hasn't drank since, but my dad is becoming completely emotionally/financially drained. her legal fees and insurance are ridiculous. she sleeps all day, started taking lexapro, and isn't even helping around the house. what should my dad and i do? my dad is having to take complete care of my siblings (5 & 7), supporting her financially, and is responsible for everything now. what advice should i give my mom? what should my dad do?
btw, i am 21, i have moved out and i am living 2 1/2 hours away awaiting entrance in med school. i just feel so guilty for leaving my family.
2007-01-05 09:01:33 · update #1
Your dad needs to stop enabling your mom. She needs to go into treatment and stay there. If she can't or won't get her act together, then dad needs to be strong and get himself and his kids away from her. She will end up destroying the whole family if you all allow her to continue as she is.
2007-01-05 08:43:58 · answer #1 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with "the only", it may be harsh, but this woman is on a downward spiral. She'll take anyone and everyone with her. She does'nt give a hoot about anyone but herself. I would put my foot down, make some ultimatums. And, stick to them. She is so used to him "covering for her" that she has no care for how this affects her family. Plus those little kids don't need to see that. Sounds like rehab didn't work, I say boot her out. Make her responsible for her alcoholism. It will wake her up, or bring about the "bottom" she hasn't reached. 2 dui's and no jail? Maybe thats where she should go. She isn't done, I guarantee it. Good luck.
2007-01-05 08:54:42 · answer #2 · answered by msmaryanne3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a crisis much bigger than your family can take on by itself. Seek support from trusted people outside the home, such as a Christian counseler or support group. Sharing your feelings and thoughts with others can help. If you have not met Him already, there is Someone who says you can bring your troubles to Him, no matter what they are. It may seem that He doesn't care, but He does--oh, does He!--and He desires for you to come and talk with Him about it. He can be reached through prayer and by reading His love letter to humankind, which is the Bible. He loves you and is not standing idle....what you're going through pains His heart, too. Dare to reach for His love and strength...what do you have to lose?
2007-01-05 08:53:12 · answer #3 · answered by LilMermaid 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry to hear of your situation... Speaking from experience (my mother is an alcoholic) Sadly, there is nothing that you can say to her to help her out. It is something that she needs to do on her own. Bless your father for supporting her, but there comes a time when you have to stop helping, because all it does is drain you emotionally and spiritually. Do your best to help your father and siblings.
2007-01-05 08:46:41 · answer #4 · answered by fungaljoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Mum sounds like she's suffering from very bad depression. This is probably what's making her drink. She needs to get to the root of what is causing this depression.
Would she give hypnotherapy a go? Hypnotherapy could help her know what is causing the depression and help her deal with it. It gets to the root of just what is causing the depression. If she's willing to give it a go, I think she could really benefit from hypnotherapy. x x x
2007-01-05 09:00:29 · answer #5 · answered by Pat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if the "85" in ur name maeans 1985, then u r 21.You should move out and focus on your own life.
2007-01-05 08:49:31 · answer #6 · answered by Curious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might need some inpatient treatment. That would alleviate some of the burden on the family while she is getting help.
2007-01-05 08:44:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom needs help. If she refuses to get help, then your dad has to decide if he wants to continue in that relationship. In the end, it is up to the two of them.
2007-01-05 08:52:49 · answer #8 · answered by rbarc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to dad about getting her some professional help.
2007-01-05 08:42:28 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2007-01-05 08:46:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋