Being a christian, I know that it is sin to be unmarried and living with a boyfriend/girlfriend. But we can't just suddenly stop living together or stop having intimate relationships. I am trying to seek advice on how I should solve this. Should we get married even though none of us is ready yet? Or should we really keep a distance even though it will be awkward? What's the best solution to solve this? Thanks!
2007-01-05 08:31:18 · 21 answers · asked by meowcat 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I have some friends who have had the same predicament you're in, though what would really make it even more difficult would be if you and your partner disagree on the issue. My friends agreed together that they would stop having sex until they were married though it wasn't easy. They were successful, however, and now they've been married for almost 10 years and have four wonderful children. I know they felt it was worth it even though it was awkward and difficult for a time. I don't know HOW precisely they did it, however. For my part, it was difficult for my spouse and I as well before we were married, but after we got to a certain point in our relationship we decided the best way to go about remaining pure until marriage was to only be alone in public places or places where someone could walk in at any moment. It was hard but right, and in the end I'm glad there was enough respect for the relationship to do it. May the Lord give you wisdom and strength as you sort this out.
2007-01-05 08:41:11 · answer #1 · answered by KDdid 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been together?
If you have been living together for some time, why are you bothered by your "sinfulness" now, or did you just become a Christian?
If you are both committed to each other and are otherwise credits to society, why should it matter if you are married or not? If the time is right, then get married. If it isn't then wait.
2007-01-05 16:38:47 · answer #2 · answered by dark_firmament 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to communicate with your partner about both of your feelings. You are correct in saying that it is wrong for you to be cohabitating but I think that more important to God is keeping your relationship on the right path. I personally have had bad experiences with this same topic. I will tell you this, don't make too many changes too fast and if your boyfriend doesn't like where the relationship goes then he isn't the one you are meant for. Good Luck!!
2007-01-05 16:38:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was young this was never a problem. One did not have sex until marriage. There was no "living together". Our society has become so permissive, no wonder the Muslims think we are a great nation of infidels. You are having a struggle between your religion and your society. No one can answer this one for you. I suggest that you talk to your minister or priest.
2007-01-05 16:41:25 · answer #4 · answered by tonks_op 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answer,The question do you desire communion with God?You can not have a close relationship with God and live in open sin,not as a lifestyle.You can"t play house
and expect God to bless,You can stop relationship,you are a believer and as such you have a choice.
I am not trying to condem,I have had Sin problems to deal with.
God rescured me,so I know He will help you.
2007-01-05 16:47:35 · answer #5 · answered by section hand 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The advice of Paul is to just get married rather than "burn in lust." If there is no serious reason to avoid marriage, why not give it some thought? I would not keep doing things that eat at your conscience; instead, try to follow it. I think you will feel better and it will affect your life in a positive way.
2007-01-05 16:35:54 · answer #6 · answered by Aspurtaime Dog Sneeze 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you're not ready to get married, don't. It speaks volumes that the Bible Belt has twice the divorce rate as the rest of the country.
I think living together is a healthy step, because it lets you test drive the main component of marriage for a while. Christianity must change with the times to stay relevant. Don't worry about it.
2007-01-05 16:35:30 · answer #7 · answered by STFU Dude 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I agree with "section hand"s answer. You already know what you should do. I believe you are just afraid of the next step to take. Pray. The Holy Spirit will speak to you and you will know deep down the next step to take.
2007-01-05 17:07:41 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs.Blessed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not a sin for you and your boyfriend to live together as long as you sleep in separate rooms. I think that it is a good idea that an engaged couple live together before getting married as long as they sleep in separate rooms and ward-off the temptation to have sex before marriage.
2007-01-05 16:37:57 · answer #9 · answered by Maurus B. 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you two are happy living together then don't worry about it. The real sin, according to Christians, is being intimate before marriage.
2007-01-05 16:34:24 · answer #10 · answered by Maverick 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋