Is it ridiculously shallow? I mean there are SO many things one can get angry at in life but lateness really bugs me and friend is ADAMANT on not being on time.
2007-01-05 08:25:40 · 6 answers · asked by katiekisses 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
This is definately not polite on her behalf, but you said she's a good friend right? You can hate what she does, but consider this a character flaw she has and accept her or don't and move on.
My best friend is very close to being the same way we used to call it "we're leaving at 6:30 Lapin standard time" For him 6:30 was a suggestion rather than a starting point. He is my best friend, I realized this was an issue and adjusted accordingly. He knew it was annoying for me, but there were also things about me that annoyed him, but he let it go since our friendship meant more than the silly little things.
2007-01-05 08:48:29 · answer #1 · answered by Heather S 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you refuse to include her on outings and other things, she will take the hint. Just tell her that you are sick of missing things because of her lack of consideration. I had a friend like that, when I was younger, we made plans as a group, and if he didn't show up on time, we went without him. It didn't take long for him to realize that he either was on time, or missed the event. And we lived in a small town where everything required the use of a vehicle. .After about a month, he started showing up half an hour early and complaining that we were always late.
2007-01-05 16:32:55 · answer #2 · answered by judy_r8 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although it may not be enough to lose a friend over, it certainly is bad etiquette.
Talk to your friend and let her know that it bugs you.
I would just plan my meetings with this friend accomodating for the lateness... If you want to meet at 6, tell her you'll meet at 5.30... that way, she'll get there on time.
2007-01-05 16:29:23 · answer #3 · answered by MQ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend like this. I did two things:
1) I told him how I felt about the situation using "I" statements. "I feel like my time is not respected." "I feel like I am not a very important priority to you."
2) I told him what time to arrive after subtracting 15 minutes from when I really wanted him to arrive.
It shows a deep lack of respect for someone to continually be late. Try these methods, I hope they help.
If it still gets to you too much, upgrade to "I'm sorry, but I feel like my time is being wasted waiting for you, and the situation is not improving in spite of our last conversation. I'm afraid I won't be able to make any time for you in the future unless something changes."
If nothing changes, feel free to drop this inconsiderate lout.
2007-01-05 16:31:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If being late is her only fault and she excels as a friend in many other aspects, then I would just accept it as a foible of hers. If she is a good friend to you in all other ways, then it is not worth losing a friendship because she's chronically late.
2007-01-05 16:36:54 · answer #5 · answered by castle h 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah I would, particulary if they don't apologise for their lateness once they finally arrive.
2007-01-05 18:31:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋