I work 3rd shift and I work every other weekend. I work with the same person on my weekends to work. Well last night he asked me if I wanted to go out tonight b4 work. I probably should have been flattered, but it totally freaked me out and I am totally uncomfortable around him now. Our shifts are 10 hours and its just me and him and Im dreading work now! I told him no that I had something I had to do, and Im hoping he got the hint. Im really worried hes gonna try again! Is this something I should let bother me? Or should I just let it go? I dont want anything to do with him outside of work.
2007-01-05 08:23:42 · 10 answers · asked by annie 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, I wasnt flattered. I was saying I probably should have been, but I was freaked out having to work with him 3 nights straight, a 10 hour shift.
2007-01-05 08:32:54 · update #1
tell him thanks but you don't mix business & pleasure just ignore it from then on and carry on if it didn't happen
good Luck
jeff
2007-01-05 08:29:25 · answer #1 · answered by JEFF K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like the first guy said, I know it's hard and you don't want to be so rude, but you might just have to flat out say "no". Sugarcoat it a little though, because you do have to see him at work and you don't want him to hate you. Tell him that you like being his friend, and you don't think it would feel right if you were more than that. Try to keep dropping friend-like hints. Tell him things like the cute guy you saw in the elevator, or how it's almost that time of the month, or how you need some more tampons soon. Things you would share more with your girlfriends than your boyfriend. That might let him know that he's in the "friend" position and not so much the "dating" position.
2007-01-05 08:31:02 · answer #2 · answered by x 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you where flatterd then whats wrong with you but if you dont want to tell him the truth you work together and it would make you feel uncomfortable coming from some one who know co-workers dateing doesnt usally work out
2007-01-05 08:28:14 · answer #3 · answered by Lab Runner 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be freaked out, just go to work like nothing happened. If he asks again, tell him how u feel. but i definitely wouldn't worry at all, and if he says anything be honest. Just be nice about it lol, tell him u have a love in indiana : P
2007-01-05 10:37:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
By telling him you had something to do was telling him a lie. You should be above lying. If you don't want anything to do with him outside of work then kindly tell him so. You shouldn't have to lie about it. There's no reason you can't be friends at work.
2007-01-05 08:33:21 · answer #5 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him just what you said here---that you dont want anything to do with hime outside of work---Or the old stand by--"I dont date people I work with" That usually goes well. Hope this helps!!
2007-01-05 18:32:57 · answer #6 · answered by Rez 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see i was in the same boat you were in i was straight up with him i was polite though i said i don't see us as anymore than friends your a great co worker but nothing more i hope you can understand honesty in this case is the best policy you don't want to send him mixed signals especially if your not interested
2007-01-05 08:30:45 · answer #7 · answered by cinerella19772 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let him know what you informed us of, it makes you uncomfortable to date him...he's a co-worker and thats all.
2007-01-05 08:27:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont say you have other things to do, just say NO, like drugs
2007-01-05 08:25:34 · answer #9 · answered by J from O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOUR MYSPACE IS COOL.
2007-01-05 09:55:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋