Help! I've promised I'd stop cutting myself but I can't. What can I do?

Question

I've posted this question on here before. And I've promised my friend I'd stop but I can't. And the cuts I'm doing are bigger than they used to be. They used to be like a paper cut. Now there getting like I had an accident. Counselers are making it worse, not helping. And talking to my friends and stuff is useless. They're absolutely no help. DON'T EVEN THINK ABOUT SUGGESTING TO TALK TO MY PARENTS!!! They're probably the reason it's happening. But what can I do to stop? Hide my knifes? Get rid of them? What?

Answer 1

One you are not alone in this. I've been doing it since I was 11.
I dont blame you for saying couselors make it worse, because most of them do not understand. They dont treat it like an addiction which it is. I cant talk to my paretns either, and Im 18. but dont blame them. It's definatley not your fault. You need to talk to someone that you trust, like a youth pastor or someone. But you need to be the one to make the decision to stop cutting yourself, its not easy. You dont have to go cold turkey. If you do it every day, try and limit yourself to only 3 times a week, ( I know that sonds crazy if you can ween yourself off it and you do have the power to do it, ) instead of doing big cuts do smaller cuts or scrathes, and then you might not feel the need to do it.
Tell yourself " I am not going to cut myself today" and if you have to keep telling yourself that, then do it.


try to do other things and get out of the house. Do something for yourself because you deserve it. I'm not trying to encourage you to keep cutting, but you just need to gradually stop doing it. It'll take some time, but I know you can do it.
You can talk to me if you want to.

Somedays I slip up, but you just need to get up and keep going. and believe me you will slip up, but its better to slip and get back up than to slip and stay down.

Answer 2

Why do you want to be all scarred up? you have to know that it's not very pretty #1, #2 look how dangerous this game you are playing is! You have some rage inside making you hurt yourself! only you can stop it! I think you need prayer to get delivered from the inner demons driving you. I know a great prayer line, the # is 1 918 495 7777. Tell the prayer counsellor what is going on then let them pray for you. Maybe you should even find a good church to attend. Because Darling you need GOD!!! That is the answer that you are looking for I promise. Jesus Loves You very much, and he cares about everything that you are going through, truly!!!

Answer 3

Find substitution methods - holding an ice cube, cutting a piece of fabric/board/etc., making pottery or another art form, drawing with red pen/marker on the area you want to cut *this worked wonders for me*, get out of the house and take a jog....I have more where those came from. I myself use a log even after recover to still track my urges and to help deal with a situatin before I cut. It's an adaptation of the one S.A.F.E. Alternatives uses in their self injury rehab.

Log:
1. Date & time
2. Location
3. Situation
4. Feelings
5. What would result from cutting?
6. What would you be trying to communicate through cutting?
7. Action taken
8. Result

Answer 4

you need to seek professional help. cutting is a coping mechanism and habit in which you have developed to help you deal with stress/depression/anxiety. i highly suggest you find some sort of support group to join, see a counselor (they do not make it worse- they are there to HELP you, not JUDGE you), and i i would also tell you to try, next time, when you feel the urge to cut, instead of putting a razor/knife to your skin, try a piece of ice. hold the ice in the same spot for a few minutes, and take a few deep breaths, count to 30, and see how you feel. you can beat cutting. just be sure to get help. i have had a few friends and a relative come so close to dying from accidentally cutting too deeply. good luck.

Answer 5

You seriously need to talk to a therapist... This can cause you your life. You need to take responsibility and admit you have a problem and tell you parents or call a hot line for anonymous help. There is something you can do but it sounds like you are cutting all you rope line away. Use them and you might find that it brings you closer in the long run.

Answer 6

Find another thing to do. I am a recovered cutter i know it's hard to stop but think you cut the wrong way you kill yourself. How bad do you think everyone will feel if that happens? How is it going to effect your family? You gotta find something better to do than that. My friends got me into punching the hell out of my bed and i learned boxing. Just pick a new obsseision cause this one can kill you. And tell your conselers there making it worse on you. They may put you in a mental asylum believe me you don't want to be in there for cutting. Plesae find it in yourself to stop!!!

Answer 7

Try to search medical help.
And I can figure it out, that you have some problems with your parents. Nothing to worry about. Try to go to a psychologist. He'll know how to help you and how to solve your problems. And hidding your knifes is a very good idea, or destroy them. But whatever you decide to do, do it RIGHT NOW!!!!! This situation may get worse among time!!
And remember. Do not blaim anyone. No one is responsable of this. All of us have had problems in our adolescence. (the one who doesn't is really a freak). The problem is, that u just don't know how to solve this. And keep us informed. Me, personly, I'm glad to help you. Is really good that you try to search help. The 50% of the solution of a problem is to admit that you have a problem.
Good Luck!!!

Answer 8

You need to get to the root of why you are harming yourself, although I'm assuming that with the counselling you have done that.

I have got an idea which I would love you to try. Meditation. Meditation can help you release you emotions.

Please, please buy a book on meditation. Go to the mind, body and spirit section at the library or at a book shop and see what there is to help you with your emotions.

If your counsellor's aren't helping, there are people around who can offer advice at your local complimentary therapy centre. If nothing else is working, it is definitely worth a go. x x x

Answer 9

If the counselor(s) that you are seeing are making it worse, then go to a different one. Eventually, you will have to deal with your parents if you feel that they are the cause of this. But get a counselor first, to do that by yourself probably isn't in your best interest, a mediator would be required because it can be intense. DO NOT GIVE UP. Please keep in touch let us know how you are doing. I'll be glad to help.

Answer 10

hi,
I know this may sound weird but try tearing paper or cutting paper. I am sorry your counselor doesn't help. Keep your hands and mind busy read a good romance try Dianna Galdoban she wrote the Highlander series or the clan of the cave bear book they are very engrossing.
Lammy