Wether its sexually, emotionally or verbally etc.
2007-01-05 08:02:03 · 13 answers · asked by teetalla 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In general, an abuser is someone who wouldI yell alot, is ill tempered & when angry would throw things or move his hands alot. & would get easily mad at anything.
Sexualy, is probably someone who doesn't mind forcing himself on a woman he's married to or dating, grabbing her in a violent way, knowing she's in pain & doesn't care about anything but his own sexual pleasure.
Verbally, it would somewhat be someone whom when angry, would say really mean things without rethinking his words before speaking, someone who knows your weak points and throws them back at you whenever he wants, says really harsh things when you two are in a fight or argument that don't have anything to do with the subject, like, he'd say it just to hurt you.
2007-01-05 08:30:42 · answer #1 · answered by CupCake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you will probably get a "gut feeling" that something is not right. Maybe that is even why you are asking this question. Sometimes it is very hard to detect. Some of the worst abusers may appear like honorable men in public and no one would ever know. Believe me, I ended up marrying one and no one could believe this.
However, if they are going to show signs it will start casually: control issues, jealousy, insecurity, instability. Most insecure men also have jealousy issues which can then lead to physical and emotional abuse. If they even hit you one time, forget him. I also learned that the hard way. They will ALWAYS be so sorry. Maybe even come begging forgiveness with flowers and promises that they will never do that again. Sadly, it doesn;t last long.
If they are sexually abusive that is even harder to detect as they can do this without you around if they are into child molestation. They prowl the internet and chat rooms which are hard for you to detect. Check thier "history tab" on the top of the computer screen to see what sites that have visited in the last weeks. Also, if you have children, monitor them always together. teach yous children about "Good and bad" touching so that they too know what is right. Many children can not clearly tell you when they are being abused as many Abusers are people they trust and who have them believing that they are doing no wrong.
Anyway, these are just a few ways. Please just trust your gut and always protect yourself. We are given our God-given instinct for a reason. I have often found it to be exactly right. Listen to it.
2007-01-05 08:12:38 · answer #2 · answered by Singthing 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd try the following: informally ask a guy if he ever had abusive impulses or done abusive things. If he admits he has, but is open to talking about it, there's a good chance he understands himself and can work on his problem; if he says yes, and gets angry, just run! if he says no, and he looks uncomfortable, I'd be cautious. if he asks "what do you mean by abusive" you should also stay clear, because if he doesn't know what you mean, he's hiding something.
2007-01-05 08:08:24 · answer #3 · answered by holacarinados 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The begging signs of an abuser. Hmm let me think. Well I have never met one, well besides my dad. He always use to bete my mom when me and my sister go to bed. But now were away from that now.And incase your wondering I`m only 11 years old so. I`m realy sorry I couldn`t help you. Good luck.
2007-01-05 08:13:40 · answer #4 · answered by Pimie G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They tend to pose as being really nice but get easily jealous and verbally abusive. They also call you alot to check up on you.
2007-01-05 08:08:16 · answer #5 · answered by *Benny B* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of complimenting you on your outfit as he normally would he'll ask,"Who r u tryin to impress." Then the sexy things about you that he never noticed he will notice and begin to insult them. First he'll attempt to lower your sself esteem, then he'll keep you from your friends, then family, then he'll demand sex when he feels insecure of himself and it will no longer be pleasureable to you. The sex will end in tears, then he'll swear your crying cause u r feeling guilty b/c your sleeping with someone else THEEEENNNNNN he will begin to beat you and afterwards tell you he never meant to do it and it will never happen again, but this is only right before he does it again.-----But if your suspicious of this b/c your man likes rough sex then gurl he just a freak let em' slap you around in the bed it relieves a lot of stress. BETTER YET SLAP HIM AROUND A COUPLE OF TIMES!!!HOLLA
2007-01-05 08:30:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
does he want to know where you are constantly?
does he not let you go out with friends without him?
does he have to control everything in your relationship - where you go, what you do, money, etc?
does he insult you or make you feel worthless?
does he get angry easily, then apologize and say it will never happen again?
2007-01-05 08:04:55 · answer #7 · answered by Kutekymmee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he loses his temper easily, agressively yells at you, threatens to hit you, etc. Stay away from those type.
2007-01-05 08:05:56 · answer #8 · answered by closetmeateater 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He raises his voice at you, says horrible things, clenches his fist and jaw, and moves towards you in a threatening manner.
2007-01-05 08:04:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
usally they will act like they have a crush on you look at you smile at you and if you are a victum they will try to gain your trust or they just might be random people who are around and act like they are nice and sweet
2007-01-05 08:04:16 · answer #10 · answered by neogirl_aqua 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋