i am in a new relaiton ship and i know in my heart he is my soul mate & he feels the same too, but his EX wife i feel like i could not top the love he felt fer her or maybe still feels for her his eyes light up and he is happy when he is with me but when his Ex wife is being good (to put it shortly) then i can see the same light in his eyes. But everyone in his whole family say that they have never seen him so happy in his life than when he is with me. I'm I reading to much into it or do you think that he still loves me and untill he is completley over her then we will probley not work out in the end?? Please sum help I just came out of a really bad marrage and am scarred to loose someone i have fallen madey inloce with. He said that i am reading ot much into things. Well am I
2007-01-05 08:00:15 · 4 answers · asked by KEL971 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You are reading to much into the whole thing. You have to remember that at one point he had feelings for his ex- enough to marry her- and when she is being "good" he probably remembers who she once was- not that he is in love with her in that way again- most men and women will always love in a certain way their first love - this doesn't mean that they will go running back at the first chance. You will always feel in someways that you are competeing against her but you aren't! Remember that! He loves you for who you are not because you remind him of the ex in anyway!
The best advice I can give is try to befriend her. When you are friends with the ex it makes things go a little less chaotic!
Talk to him- he could feel the same way you do about your ex- you never know!
2007-01-05 08:50:25 · answer #1 · answered by dragonflyaway69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any divorced guy that you date is going to go through trying to part with his old wife. I'm sure it's not easy for him to just forget about her and not think of her. And this is normal... However you need to strongly consider whether or not you want to marry someone who has been divorced. The statistics are not on your side with a second marriage. However since you both have been divorced, at least you have this in common and can understand each other. The ball is in your court, you just have to make the decision. Good luck, I'm sure it's not easy!
2007-01-05 08:21:21 · answer #2 · answered by Lindsay M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you are. Marraige is a huge commitment, and it's impossible to just forget about a former spouse. Most likely he does love his ex, he's just not in love with her. How long were they married? Do they have kids? If they have kids, start building a relationship with her too, because she will always be around. If they don't have kids, I don't see why they should be seeing each other on a regular basis.
2007-01-05 08:10:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every love is different. Remember, she is an ex for a reason. Unless he is neglecting you in favor of her, don't worry about it. Trust is one of the most important things in a relationship, and if you give him the feeling you don't trust him, what does that say about your love for him?
2007-01-05 08:17:53 · answer #4 · answered by Debbie D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋