Mom still believes she did everything right that day. I will never forgive her for turning her back on me.?

Question

I was 4 months pregnant & staying with my parents after my husband threw me out when I discovered he was doing drugs again. I had lost 1 of the twins I was carrying & I was under alot of emotional distress. I woke up 1 morning not well. I was on overload and felt something wasn't right. I feared I would lose my 2nd baby that day. I needed peace & quiet, a calm environment to rest & relax. I called my mother who had spent the night at my sis's house 2 ask if they (sis & hubby & 5 kids) could postpone their visit,but it was like she couldn't hear me.She kept saying "but you were fine yesterday & of course we are all coming 2 the house today". I broke down,got off the phone & booked a hotel room.Dad forbid me 2 go & be alone,so he called mom & told her the visit was cancelled. Mom came home 12 hrs later & didn't even ask how I was. She ignored me,as if I had done something to her. Mom didn't tell sis I wasn't well, so she thinks "I ruined their plans". Don't trust mom anymore & never will

Answer 1

sounds like your mom can't be trusted for a little while, but give her another chance, i mean she is your mom. you seem to be under a lot of emotional stress, i would suggest that the next time something like this happens you call your sister or whoever is coming, and explain that you are sick and don't really feel up to getting together and reschedule another day, like you had said. Try to tell your sister what happened, open up to her. seeing that she has had 5 kids, she will probably understand, and who knows she might even be there for you later down the road. THank your dad if you already haven't, but he won't understand everything that is going on with you, so try to put an effort into building back your relationship with your mom. Once you make a couple tries though, leave it up to her to decide if she wants to get the relationship back. make sure that before you have your baby you are in the right place, emotionally and physically. make sure you have that one person there who you CAN trust and that will be there for you in your times of need.

Answer 2

I am so sorry to hear that. It is the hardest thing when your own mom doesn't seem to care. I hope and pray that you can tell her your feelings and she will accept them with an open heart. It is important to have a good relationship with your mom especially in time of need! If your mom doesn't change her attitude towards you maybe there is something wrong that she isn't talking about, maybe she feels guilty about something she has said or done.

Answer 3

Your mother didn't exactly turn her back on you. She just didn't go out of her way to make things convenient for you.

If your mother had refused to let you stay at the house after your husband threw you out, then perhaps you could rightly say that your mother turned her back on you.

But you are not homeless now. You are staying at your mother's house. And I think you should be thankful that your mother still cares about you, even when she doesn't have to any more. You are an adult now and not a child.

Answer 4

Wow! What a mom. At least you have an awesome Dad that obviously loves you very much. Next time I would call my sister as well and let her know what the plans are since you can't count on your mother to do it.

Answer 5

That's sad! I'm sorry your mom is so selfish, sometimes I think my pregnancy gets stressful but nothing like that. I know it's hard to forgive her, but you need to for yourself. Whether she changes or not, that's up to her, and I'm not even saying that you need to continue a close relationship with her. Simply tell her, "Mom I wanted you to know that I forgive you for how terribly you acted that day, and that I'm trying to move on. From now on, if you feel like acting selfish and childish, then I will have no choice but to discontinue our close relationship." If you are still staying with them, I highly recommend you find another place to live. I'm sure that'll be hard with the hubby flaking out, but you don't need your mom treating you like you're 10. Good luck, and I'm so sorry. Just keep your head up and stay strong for your baby!

Answer 6

You don't have to trust her, but you will always love her. She made a bad choice, but once in while we all do. She was selfish and acting like a child. This was wrong of her and you had every right to ask for piece just out of greif of the loss of one of your babies. She is wrong you are right. Trust is earned and I hope in time you will find that you can trust and forgive her. I hope everything is well with your other baby.
Best Regards.
Tracylyn

Answer 7

Das , you need to lighten up on your Mom. Just because she had a different agenda than yours, with HER house bye the way,you're upset? And this is the reason you say you'll never anything about your Mom, ever? GROW UP!!!

Answer 8

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Answer 9

Get over yourself. If your mom hated you she would not have let you back in her house.

You tried to tell her what to do in her house. You are lucky that your dad was there or you would have been out on your pregnant ear.

Answer 10

I can understand you needing some rest and all but time has passed,maybe your mom relaizes what was wrong . You need to put what happened behind you and GROW UP!!!!!!!!!!!