been having great sex with a guy i've believe to be my soulmate... only thing is that we've never been out on date! i stopped sleeping with him two mnths ago as i believed i deserved more than just sex. so now he keeps begging me for sex and keeps touching my nipples every time he sees me! i told him he doesn't treat me right and he said he doesn't have the chance to treat me like anything! what do you think he means by this statement! he flirts with me shamelessly each and everyday! i love him soooooooo much and i feel he has feelings for me, too but can only show it through sex... what do u guys think? mature answers only please.
2007-01-05 07:49:02 · 9 answers · asked by chocy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So, you view him as a soulmate, he viewed you as a friend with benefits. If all he has to offer is sex, how can you be so in love with him?
Doesn't sounds like he has any other qualities, nor does it sound like you spent any real time getting to know each other.
I'm sorry but I would take my friends with benefits out to dinner once and a while.
It really doesn't sound like he respects you. But to answer your question, regarding his statement, sounds to me like you've been having soo much sex during this period that he hasn't had a chance to take you out. Although, somehow, he intended to?
So level with him that you want a relationship, to spend time outside of the bedroom. That you want to get to know each other. See if that works and see if he acts upon it. Otherwise find something that you're looking for cause if you keep seeing him, you're looking in the wrong direction.
2007-01-05 07:56:05 · answer #1 · answered by -J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get ride of the scum bag! I'm sure you are better than that. he won't treat you right because he doesn't think he has to. You have given it up to him before you built the relationship.
Sometimes you may think you "love" someone but back out of the situation and take a deep look at what kind of person he is and what you want him to be, you can't change him into someone he's not. You may just want him to love you back so bad that you are telling yourself that he does when he doesn't.
2007-01-05 16:01:11 · answer #2 · answered by Jules Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man who doesn't know how to treat a lady, but just as a s** object does not deserve to be with a lady!
Don't give in to him. If he truly cares for you he should find other ways to win you over. He should care enough to make the effort to take you out, to have a meaningful conversation, to perhaps make you little endearing presents and show you he wants to take care of you and be there for you.
If you push him away, and all he can come up with is flirt and touch you in his attemps to get you back... well... he ain't very imaginative, is he?
Men can show their feelings in many ways. S** is perhaps the easies for them, but then he might well just be interested in that for his own pleasure!
Don't give in - make him work to get you!
2007-01-05 15:57:58 · answer #3 · answered by confused_kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is scared of commitment hes eaither had his heart broke befor or he's trying to be a player.....dont think to much on the second chances are hes had his heart broke befor and hes afraid of getting hurt to be honest but hun if he cant commit to you mabey you should look some where else for your soul mate
2007-01-05 15:53:57 · answer #4 · answered by Lab Runner 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it's really good that you told that you deserved more and he only wants the sex... keep him only as a friend and tell him that you don't have the chance to treat him anything more then a friend :) :) :)
2007-01-05 16:00:31 · answer #5 · answered by sexton 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he might mean that he dosn't think about anything else but having sex w/u .
I seriusly think he only wants your body if he really loved you he would definetelly take you out on dates and make you feel that even though sex is great he loves you for who you are and that theres more to you than sex.
girl love your self more than you love him either teach him to love the other side of you or leave him to a brainless chick!
2007-01-05 15:56:41 · answer #6 · answered by c-section mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to marry you. He clearly isn't being serious, or doesn't know how to be. Is he responsible in his own life, job etc.
His awareness level sucks, so ask him to marry you. If he runs away start looking for something new, if he stays and stares at you in shock and says "no" than you've progressed to the next level (trust me), if he says yes and you didn't bring a ring (any kind) than just say "&hit" "you do love me" and go back to your place.
Trust me
2007-01-05 15:54:42 · answer #7 · answered by NoAnswers 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Move on honey, he is just using you. I bet he thinks your hot but you don't have the kind of personality he is looking for. You can most likly work it in bed and that is what he wants from you.
2007-01-05 15:53:59 · answer #8 · answered by Jeni Bug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is a cheapskate.
2007-01-05 15:58:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋