I will get excited about going shopping, or the naming, and he always manages to turn it into a fight. What should I do?
2007-01-05 07:37:46 · 11 answers · asked by P-cilla 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
If it's the only thing you talk about for some men (especially before the baby is born) they can be bored. Hard to believe I know.
When the baby gets here, if he's not bonding I'd address that right away. Maybe he is afraid to get to excited, or afraid of losing you in the process. Mom's tend to obsess way more than most dads. He may well be awesome once the child arrives.
Try not bringing it up at all for a few days and see what happens. Try asking him about his day, his job, etc for a few days and see if he doesn't come around.
Good luck, but I'd stay on the lookout for signs that he's not going to be loving and supportive down the stretch, if that's the case you owe it to yourself and your child to build a happy life with or without him.
2007-01-05 07:50:57 · answer #1 · answered by Lori 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop including him in such things. Not all men can get excited about baby-wear and toys and cribs and what-not. Instead of forcing him to fit your idea of what a husband should be, be a little more flexible and do those things with a female relative or friend.
2007-01-05 15:45:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband is not happy about it tell him get over it I am having this baby no matter what. If you have to go shopping for it by your self and think of the name by your self if you have to do not let him be a part of it till he wants to well good luck
2007-01-05 15:41:41 · answer #3 · answered by princess_bee_2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It probably is unfair of him to react this way, and make you feel bad. But accepting that, you need to try and understand hgow he is feeling. Maybe he us concerned and upset about upcoming financial responsibilities; maybe he is concerned he won't be a good father. I'd have to say that something is troubling him, and even if he is being childish or selfish, it would be in your interests to find out what is going on.
2007-01-05 15:46:35 · answer #4 · answered by Andy Jones 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore him. do what i do when ever he makes you want to start fighting stick out your tounge. my husband thinks its cute and stops fighting with me. he knows i will always win anyway. lol good luck and if that does not work go with a friend shopping.
2007-01-05 15:40:29 · answer #5 · answered by littleluvkitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he want this baby? I am sorry he is ruining it, why don't you get a friend or your mom to do all those things with you until he comes around.
2007-01-05 15:52:06 · answer #6 · answered by PrettyWifey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off, why do you think he is behaving this way? did he not want a pregnancy at this time? regardless of the answers, you are pregnant and have every right to be joyful about it. do NOT let your husband start any fights, walk away if you have to. and, please, do not let this continue, as it should be one of the best times of your life! good luck.....
2007-01-05 20:34:28 · answer #7 · answered by tcbtoday123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why isn't he excited about it? He should be supporting you and be excited with you instead of ruining your excitement...have you asked him what his issue is with it?
2007-01-05 15:41:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is stressed out about becoming a dad?
Sit down and talk with him.
2007-01-05 15:41:02 · answer #9 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he's not ready to be a father
2007-01-05 15:41:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋