Jailbird Blues?

Question

My current boyfriend is currently a resident of the county jail and if convicted he's looking at some serious time. I love him so much and we've been through a lot together but I don't know if I should stick around and wait for him to come home or move on with my life and possibly regret it later.

Answer 1

girl been there done that is not worth it if he is getting more then 3 months and depends on charges too you dont want to be involved in drugs or any robbery or death any serious charge stay away from him take care yourself what happens if someday you 2 get married have a child and he ends up again in jail what is going to happen to you and your kids think of you dont let that type of guy ruin your life****

Answer 2

You should move on with your life. As much as you say you love him, you have to do what is best for you & your future. You really don't want to be with someone who's in jail right now, for the reasons being why he landed in jail in the first place because his background will affect both your futures. Once he gets out, he will never be able to find a decent job, no company will hire him because of his background. All companies now a days do background checks & if you done time, then guaranteed you will not be making a single dime. That's the truth. Do you want to end up paying & supporting him for the rest of your life? then you better think hard because that's exactly where your going to end up if you stay with this man. He can't take care of you, he probably never will be able to with his criminal background. So, for your sake, PLEASE MOVE ON. I'm not being mean, I am being honest, you do not want to be with a loser. You as a woman have a chance for a good future, so go find yourself a good man who's got a good education (meaning college graduate), a man who's got a good job, clean background, good credit & most importantly a man who will love & treat you right, because a man in jail can't do anything for you. I know you love him & it's gonna be hard moving on, but I promise you that if you move on, it will be the right choice & later in life when your successful & married to a good man as i described, you will not regret anything. You will remember that leaving this jail bird was the best decision you've ever made.


GOOD LUCK & GOD BLESS

Answer 3

That's a tough one.
Whatever you do regarding the men in your life is uncertain, but don't sit around just waiting for him and doing nothing to improve yourself. You need to be the best YOU that you can be. Study, learn, work, become successful yourself.
Separate the waiting from what success you can make in your own life. Who can say what will happen later. Don't waste TODAY.

Answer 4

well, id look at it this way, if he chose a lifestyle knowing full well that there was a risk that would take him away from you, than he doesn't love you and your wasting your time waiting for him.
He basically picked jail over you. He could have easily not done whatever it is that he did that put him in jail. Unless it was for something like parking tickets? but thats not likely if he's going away for a long time.

Answer 5

if hes been in and out of jail then sweety i doubt hes gonna change. the choice is ultimately yours, uve said uve been through a lot with him ist it mostly cause hes gotten in trouble before? Most people would say leave him but only u know how deep ur love is. Does he treat u right. when hes out of jail does he work help out. do u have any kids? sometimes even though they get a lot of years they might be out in half dat time for good behaviour but its hard being good in there when u got to defend urself. would he wait for u? no one but urself can answer this one honey. good luck . all we can do is offer our opionions

Answer 6

Move on with your life! He should've thought about both of your futures before allegedly commiting a crime. You'll love again. Besides, some of those prisoners are rehabilitated and others turn out worse than they were when they come out, only some have caught diseases and take them home to their women.

Answer 7

Move on, if you were not considering it you would not be asking us... You know deep down what you should do, you need to do what your instinct is trying to tell you, move on find someone new you are worth more than you are giving yourself credit for... You will not regret it, when you move on do not look back for what might have been, move on and pat yourself on the back for doing the right thing even though it is hard.

Answer 8

That is a hard decision to make but, there is nothing you can do if your heart wanders and you find someone else that would make you happy. He shouldn't want you to put your life on hold for "his" mistakes! You might can hold out for awhile but, will you be happy waiting on him and then if he gets out after his time and leaves you won't you feel the "fool" for wasting your precious life for him? I would tell him that you will be there for him but, you don't know what the future holds for you. He really would need to concentrate on his time and focus on his past mistakes. You need to focus on yourself and try not worry what he might think of you if you decide to move on.

Answer 9

Move on with your life and enjoy your own freedom! He should've thought about both of your futures before allegedly commiting a crime. You'll love again. Besides, some of those prisoners are rehabilitated and others turn out worse than they were when they went in, only some have caught diseases and take them home to their women.

You love him but you have to love you more.

Answer 10

I know you love the man, but you deserve more than putting your love life on hold because he's in jail for committing a crime. I would move on.