My fiance has chosen 1 best man (of course), and 2 groomsmen. That number will not change, as there is no one else he would like. I have chosen my maid of honor, and 1 bridesmaid. For the 2nd bridesmaid, I am torn. I have two friends whom I am considering. One, Traci, was one of my best friends from 6th grade until graduation. She has since moved to another state, and I talk to her very rarely. Another friend, Katie, I have known since 6th grade, but I have only been close with her for about 4-5 years. During that time, she has done some terrible things to our friendship, but I always forgave her. Who do I choose? Katie, who I am close to now, even though she has stabbed me in the back more than once, or the Traci, who I have more history with, but that I rarely speak to now days? Additional details: I am planning to have Katie's son and little sister in my wedding, and her fiance is one of the groomsmen. Also, she told me that she wants me and my fiance in her wedding.
2007-01-05 07:21:04 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Well, first of all it's hard to believe that your fiance cannot think of ONE more person he could have as a groomsman. Do you have a brother? What about his dad? My husband had his dad as his best man, and it was so sweet. Explain how stressed you are about the decision you have to make, and maybe you could both sit down and brainstorm and find ONE more guy to have in the wedding. If you absolutely cannot (which would be odd) then I suppose that Katie would be the wisest choice, since she is planning on having you in hers, and since her family is in the wedding. Good luck, I know it's stressfull but it will all work out!
2007-01-05 08:36:27 · answer #1 · answered by Lindsay M 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would say pick the friend that you know you will always be friends with. I have a friend that I have known since I was 3. We were best friends until she moved in the 7th grade. We still talk now, even if its once a month or every other month. But I know that we will always be friends no matter what. I guess its hard to have the whole family except Katie however. Do what you truly want to do, not what you think will make everyone else happy. Its your wedding.
2007-01-05 07:47:06 · answer #2 · answered by redsox fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say Katie, since you are close with her today and because her family will also be in the wedding. If you've forgiven her for past problems, try to let them go.
However, you don't need to have the same number of bridesmaids as your fiance has groomsmen. You could ask both girls or neither, if you don't mind having an uneven number of people in the wedding party.
2007-01-05 07:44:47 · answer #3 · answered by Blue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stick with the three people you have. Asking #1 will just lead to trouble. Asking #2 or #3 will be weird if you're not close. And if they find out that you just asked them to have that "fourth bridesmaid," their feelings might be hurt. The point of bridesmaids is to honor your closest friends, not to fill up slots. It's insulting to someone to ask them just to be a space filler. And it's silly to put yourself through several months' worth of headache just so you can have even sides for a few hours on one day of your life Your fiance can have his four guys and you can have your three ladies, and one lucky lady can have two escorts for the ceremony. Your photos will NOT be ruined. Stick with the three you have. Don't ask a fourth person just to even things out. Nothing bad will happen if your sides are uneven. It will only be an "issue" if you decide to make it one. TONS of couples have uneven parties and their weddings are lovely.
2016-05-23 06:34:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm just wondering why precisely you have to have an equal number of bridesmaids and groomsmen. Also, I am wondering why you have to have either of these girls as your last bridesmaid. It's your wedding. Unequal bridesmaids and groomsmen are not the end of the world. As long as you both show up and say "I do," the rest is totally incidental.
2007-01-05 07:51:19 · answer #5 · answered by ckmclements 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Choose the friend you will trust to go to for comfort and advice when your marriage hits bumps in the road, the friend you will be proud and happy to celebrate your 20th wedding anniversary with. Don't look only at recent history, because all long-term friendships go through times when they are closer or more distant. Look at the long term picture.
2007-01-05 07:30:46 · answer #6 · answered by Fogjazz49-Retired 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
katie
2007-01-06 07:06:35 · answer #7 · answered by sc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
choose who you are closest to now. that is the best way to go.
2007-01-05 07:32:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What about mom??
2007-01-05 20:33:39 · answer #9 · answered by cheery_ohz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋