Hes almost 19...Is it time?Iwas out before I was 18...
2007-01-05 07:20:46 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Most of the posts here have already said it. . .If he's in school, have him pay a percentage toward food, utilities, etc (rent, if you will), but if he's not in school. . .sit him down and talk to him about it and explain where you're coming from. . .that you love him, but you want him to be responsible and that he needs to think about his future and help him to set some goals. . .a timetable.
2007-01-05 12:47:49 · answer #1 · answered by YuckItUp 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on a lot of things. Can he afford it? If not, is it because he's lazy or going to school or things just aren't working? If he's lazy, tell him to get a job or get out. If things are just hard, let him stay for a bit. Is he mature enough to move out? If not, don't kick him out to fail. Above all, remember that this is your son, and you love him no matter what. If you do have to ask him to leave, be nice about it, and try to help him. I'm going thorough something similar right now, and there's nothing scarier than facing the biggest challenge of your life alone. Good luck!
2007-01-05 15:38:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't say if he's going to school or not, but will assume he isn't. Does he have a job? If he does sit down with him and discuss a timetable. If he doesn't have a job, you need to make it perfectly clear that your home is not a flophouse and he needs to get a job. Once he has a job, then you can discuss the timetable. Give him enough time to save some money. The last thing you want is him coming back asking for money for rent or worse... moving back in. Good Luck.
2007-01-05 15:30:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The longer he stays, the more dependent he gets on you. Tell him you think it's time he should be out on his own. Maybe get an appartment with a friend. If you don't mind him staying, ask him to put some money towards rent or the water bill or groceries as a way of being responsible for something.
2007-01-05 15:24:52 · answer #4 · answered by Jacuzzi Lover 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
After 18 ya get a job and help to pay the bills (or if you get a job between 17 and 18). Otherwise, OUTCHA GET!!!
Don't let the doorknob hitcha where the good Lord splitcha.
I was out at 15.
2007-01-05 15:39:03 · answer #5 · answered by Black Angel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When he is old enough to get a job and support himself. Generally this means about 6 months to a year after college at the latest. Keep the room handy for a couple more years, though, just in case.
2007-01-05 15:24:59 · answer #6 · answered by dukefenton 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I may be in the minority on this on this one, but I would never ask one of my children to move out. I still have a 25 year old, a 21 year old, and a 19 year old at home, and I'm tickled to death about it. I do have a 24 year old with a home of her own, but I would prefer that they live at home until they are ready to be on their own.
2007-01-05 15:26:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
To each parent and child it is different. To me personally I would mind if they stayed at home as long as there are going to school or working or both. I think that they should get there life situated as far as going to school or something. But if you are just at home not doing anything but partying its time to go. But thats just my belief
2007-01-05 15:46:09 · answer #8 · answered by J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is working and likes it at home and he cleans or pays rent, I wouldn't kick him out. Me as a parent would enjoy all the years I could have with him!
2007-01-05 16:04:10 · answer #9 · answered by Tammy J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your child is studying or needs financial help, why do you rush to ask him to move out. My house is and will always open for my children even if they grow white hair.
2007-01-05 15:28:52 · answer #10 · answered by markos m 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋