This guy that I work with and I hit it off right away when we first met. We began to spend time 2gether and started having sex after a couple months. Well I just found out that all our email conversations about us he was forwarding to his best friend who work with us all well calling me a loose *****. I am devastated. I confronted him about it and he said yes you are easy and that I was a hoe. I also found out he has been telling a couple other people were I work that I'm such a *****. Please need advice what did I do wrong and what should do so this doesn't happen again.
2007-01-05 07:14:16 · 24 answers · asked by Miss Understood 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The only thing that I see you did wrong was get involved with someone you work with. Nothing good every really comes of it (well 99% of the time anyway).
Other than that, you didn't do anything wrong.
The guy is the one who was immature. My view is that a gentleman never tells, not even his best friend.
The guy is not worth your time, move on. If you want to feel better just tell the ladies at work that he has a small ****. That should shut him up (of course, I suggest you take the high ground and not give it any more of your time).
If you want to avoid this again, date someone who is not immature, who you don't work with.
2007-01-05 07:20:09 · answer #1 · answered by -J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never ever date men you work with! I sincerely hope that you weren't emailing him while at work either since others might find out. I would chalk this one up to a learning experience. You can also file a complaint with your human resource department (if and only if you don't have a company policy against dating someone at work)
You made a mistake in judgement. People make mistakes. Don't let these people make you feel bad about yourself either. No one is worth your dignity. You deserve more than this guy anyway.
2007-01-05 15:18:17 · answer #2 · answered by Melli 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl! First off you should never ever mess with somebody you work with! That's a disaster waiting to happen. Don not beat yourself up over this. If he's that immature to go telling ya'lls business to everybody then you don't need him anyhow. Besides if he's saying those things about you; what does that say about him? You know that you are not those things he's calling you so don't sweat it. Just be the bigger person and let it go and don't even let him know it's bothering you anymore. Move on and learn from it.
2007-01-05 15:34:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he played you, and the best thing you can do is hold your head up high and walk away from the situation. its sad when we start to trust someone, and then the lies start coming out. i fell hard for someone i worked with and 6 months later, i was told by her that she was living a life of lies. its amazing what a person can do to have you change your mind about them. he just wanted sex, said the right things, and got away with it. no strings, and he thinks he won. well when you become the better person and walk away from the situation knowing that you didnt do one damn thing wrong and this guy is just a clown, he is the one who has to see himself in the mirror, and to realize that he is an *** hole...well i wish him nothig but the worse. he will get it, you just wait and see. i am sorry that this happened to you, b/c i know the feeling. good luck in the future!!!
2007-01-05 15:23:24 · answer #4 · answered by brianju 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in my forty’s and thank God I have learned from my mistakes, one is never date any one at work this I can guarantee you it never works. My advice is that if it is possible change your jobs start a new, but do not date anyone at your new employment. There is nothing that you can do about his actions so you just need to move on. You lied in bed with a dog and got up with fleas.
2007-01-05 15:28:18 · answer #5 · answered by Ms Pollyanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dontthink you really did anything wrong, althoguh i suggest trying to not have relationships with men you work with. He doesnt sound like a guy you would want to be with anyhow. I suggest ignoring him and if anyone speaks to you about it or you overhear something conteracct it by telling rthem he is just mad because he couldnt keep a willy. it should shut him up. men hate it when women said they were bad in bed.
2007-01-05 15:22:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is the problem, it may be a guy thing but if you will let a guy do you between 2-6 dates, that's his goal. Next time if your worried he will call u a ****. wait like 10-15 dates to start.
2007-01-05 15:19:07 · answer #7 · answered by rickle91 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sucks and it's really not right what he has done but there are two good lessons to learn from it:
1) Don't ever get involved with someone you work with.
2) Having casual sex leads to situations like this and sometimes situations that are even worse (unwanted pregnancy, STD's, etc.).
2007-01-05 15:18:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont be embarrassed bu what he says u know u arent a ***** so ignore him, if he tells anyone else about it let them know u were with that guy and if u choose to have sex with him its your business not thiers. if that dosent work kick their ***. lol not serious but tell them what u think when they say that.
2007-01-05 15:19:50 · answer #9 · answered by lilcharm7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
File harassment charges with HR of the company.... He and his is slandering you so you could press charges...
SLANDER - A false defamation (expressed in spoken words, signs, or gestures) which injures the character or reputation of the person defamed; distinguished from libel.
2007-01-05 15:18:01 · answer #10 · answered by JohnS 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋