I have been with him for 10yrs and he cheated on me with his ex. He barely was a part of his children's life these last two months and now he's making an issue of it. He's being so cruel. People say that I'm beautiful and have a lot going for me. However, I don't see it. I just want some advice to move on and start looking at myself as they do.
2007-01-05 07:08:18 · 11 answers · asked by shortie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Believe me this is a silver lining, might not look like it now but who wants to live their life unhappy? Find out what you would like to do with your life, cherish your children and let the mud scape off your feet!
If you don't think you are beautiful is because you haven't been told enough!
2007-01-05 07:15:26 · answer #1 · answered by mudd_grip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry that happened. Men can be so cruel sometimes. It does sound like you need to work on your self-esteem a bit. Maybe go shopping, get some new clothes and a makeover. That might make you feel better about yourself. And when you start noticing other men looking at you, you will realize that you can attract men, and that eventually when you are ready you will find a r/ship better than the one you had with your boyfriend. Just focus on taking care of yourself at this time. Pamper yourself and do what makes you feel good. Spoil yourself. You are going through something very difficult and deserve to be spoiled.
2007-01-05 07:13:16 · answer #2 · answered by bellyyo62 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, first fo all no matter how long you have been together it is going to hurt and it is going to be hard. Nothing in life is easy and we all know "Love Hurts". You have something more to worry about right now and that is one your children and two - yourself! If he wants to go off and do what hes doing it is obvious he doesnt respect you as a significant other or a mother! If he truly loved you this would have never crossed his mind and he would have nevere cheated or been rude and crude. The fact is he doesnt deserve you and you dont deserve his Bull-crap! I cxan't tell you how to move on because everyone has their own ways of coping but what I can offer you is advice from what helped me and that was staying focused on my children, staying busy doing things with them and bettering my life.... So that way I could later rub it in his face discreetly!
2007-01-05 07:15:57 · answer #3 · answered by tiffany s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a woman's group. It is always nice to talk to people going through the same thing that you are. Then you have someone to relate to. For a long time you will have a trust issue with men. Don't go into another relationship thinking that he is the same as your last man. That wont get you too far. Wait to date until you are ready.
2007-01-05 07:12:02 · answer #4 · answered by kaci_princess23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first step would be to getting counseling and try to move on little by little. Just realize that you cannot undo 10 years of being with someone. Try to walk away with a lesson and the experience, and but it into something else that will benefit you in the long run.
2007-01-05 07:11:57 · answer #5 · answered by sarabmw 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in the same situation for the last 12 years. Start off very slowly by dating then SLOWLY work your way up to trusting again.
After 12 years, I still don't trust many women.
Good luck with that.
2007-01-05 07:18:58 · answer #6 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having low self esteem is what has been keeping you stuck with him for the past 10 years. You need to love yourself so others can love you. If you don't love you , how can you expect others to love you? You just need to change your thinking about yourself. Think positive and live positive. There is a much better man out there for you and you deserve it. You know you deserve it!!!
2007-01-05 07:13:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to remember that it wasn't about you it was about him and thats why he did theses things to you. Listen to your friends because they wouldn't lie to you if they are true......The healing process will take time and don't rush yourself but sometimes you may need to push yourself a little bit at a time. Focus on your children and the people who love you. Force yourself to move forward everyday by staying focused on whats important to you and your kids.
2007-01-05 07:21:07 · answer #8 · answered by daydreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi honey - Listen, sit down and really look into your kids eyes.
What do you see? I think you see how much they need a strong and supportive mum! I think they need a mum to teach them how NOT to get walked all over and how to stick up for themselves!
Now get to it! Be what you kids need! Don't let him rob you of anything else!
I've been there and your kids really need YOU. So if you can't do it for yourself do it for your kids!
2007-01-05 07:19:15 · answer #9 · answered by kellz_car 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go sleep with his best friend or better yet his worst enemy hahaha beyond that i dont know what to tell ya either get revenge( petty ) or move on stop dwelling and go get your groove on
2007-01-05 07:11:40 · answer #10 · answered by glavendale 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋