My father is deceased, and cannot walk me down the aisle. In answer to my previous question, many of u suggested a close male friend, a friend of my father, or an uncle. My father had one sister, and she is married. She and my uncle-in-law (i call him that to show that he is not blood related, but married to my aunt) have been around for me, and have been helping me in any way that they can. However, as helpful as my uncle-in-law is, he is only in our family by marraige, and I don't feel close to him. I don't really want him to walk me down the aisle, but I know that he would love to, as he has no children of his own.
My other option would be my dad's good friend. He and his wife used to be around alot, but I haven't seen them much lately. I have no godparents, but my dad once told me that this friend and his wife would have been. This man was part of our life out of friendship with my parents, and I love him. But he has two children who he got the opportunity to give away.
2007-01-05 07:08:15 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Don't pick someone just because you need one - the last thing you want to do is pick the uncle in law because he does not have children.
As for the father's good friend, if you are comfortable, go for it, but only if you are comfortable with it.
It does not necessarily have to be a man who walks you down the aisle - your mother, aunt, can do it.
You can always walk by yourself.
Or be innovative, have your future husband meet you as you arrive at the church in the limo and have him escort you to the alter. Many cultures do this and it is beautiful.
Good luck!
2007-01-05 17:55:24 · answer #1 · answered by nnaming2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about both? One can join in halfway. I was the Maid of Honor in a wedding where my friend was really close to her stepdad. He practically raised her since she only saw her father every other weekend.So when it came down to the walk alot of her relatives started to tell her things like if your stepdad walks you I'm not going and then she really didn't know what to do. So she started walking down the aisle with her stepfather, midway her real dad joined in, when they got to the end the stepdad sat down and her real father was the actual man that gave her away. Maybe you can let your dads friend start off the walk and then your uncle can actually give you away. Since he will never have the honor of doing it for one if his own children, I'm sure he would be honored to do it for you. And he will probably never forget it.
2007-01-08 06:49:07 · answer #2 · answered by Heather 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe no one has to walk you down the aisle. My father was dead before I got married, and there was no one else I wanted to. I asked my mom, but she wouldn't - that might be an option for you. I didn't want to walk alone, so my man and I walked down the aisle together - it was wonderful, and people loved the idea!
2007-01-05 09:44:51 · answer #3 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just so that you know, there is technically no need for anyone to give you away.
If you're not attached to any of these people, it's entirely okay for you to walk down the aisle by yourself, and simply skip the part of the ceremony where the officiant says, "who gives this bride...".
The tradition comes from the days when women were "property" of the men, and weren't allowed to do anything on their own - the father was there to "give away" his property to the groom, and the priest couldn't allow the groom to take someone else' property without authorization.
Considering that no one "owns" you, do you really need someone to give you away?
2007-01-05 07:22:46 · answer #4 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can always walk down the aisle by yourself there is nothing wrong with that too.
I wish you Luck on this problem. Don't forget to enjoy your wedding tho and the man you are so in love at the end of that aisle walk.
Much Love and Peace in 2007 :-)
2007-01-05 07:19:14 · answer #5 · answered by bottom dollar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your mom is still alive have her walk you down the aisle. There is nothing wrong with this at all. Your uncle in law as you have suggested will probably feel a bit hurt by not escorting you but he will get over it and have a good time at your wedding regardless. Fact is that it is your wedding and as such you should be able to pick and choose who you want to partake in it.
2007-01-05 07:14:16 · answer #6 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say the Uncle-in-Law, except that you "don't really want him to".
This is your day, and you should be walked down the aisle by the person you wish. I've even heard of mothers walking their daughters down the aisle.
2007-01-05 07:15:16 · answer #7 · answered by eli_star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi - My MUM gave me away!
It was the most special day of my life and I know my dad would have been proud to see me and mum walking arm in arm down the aisle.
Who said only a man can do this job. My mum did it and our priest was so impressed and happy and all our friends and family thought it was great.
2007-01-05 07:23:40 · answer #8 · answered by kellz_car 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHEN I GET MARRIED I WOULD HAVE A SIMILAR DILEMMA BECAUSE MY FATHER IS DECEASED AND I DON'T HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH MY BROTHERS. YOU COULD EITHER WALK DOWN THE AISLE ALONE OR HAVE YOUR MOTHER WALK YOU DOWN AS OTHERS HAVE SUGGESTED. JUST DON'T LET ANYONE MAKE YOU FEEL BAD ABOUT YOUR DECISION. MAKE SURE ITS WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY AND NOT OTHER PEOPLE HAPPY. ITS YOUR DAY!
2007-01-05 09:05:17 · answer #9 · answered by Yvette 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is tough. I think I would pick your dad's good friend because that is who your dad would choose. Your uncle in law sounds great, but he isn't blood (not that it really matters, seeing as your dad's good friend isn't either), and he doesn't sound as close to your family. Your dad's friends sounds closer to your family and your dad. Have a great wedding!
2007-01-05 07:13:02 · answer #10 · answered by .:Blair:. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋