i am taking care of my little cousin more u can say im here nanny well any way she wouldnt listen to a word i say when she get hurt she cries to her mom and than my aunt and i get into it what can i do to make her start liatening to me i am cluess i need help fast
2007-01-05 07:06:16 · 11 answers · asked by jen r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This question is hard, becasue you did not list her age or yours. If the child is 5 and under you are fully responsible for her every minute safety. You can reason with 5 and older. Try a system of sitckers on a calander is does work. Reward her at the end of each week for her effort. Go to the 99 cent store and buy 20 dollars worth of fun things you think she or he would really like to have. Use them as bate. When she is missbehaving you open the closet you have the rewards in and say, " Wow it would be so cool if I could give you a sticker right now for behaving" show her the sticker and the rewards. Let her now that it takes __ number of stickers at the end of the week to get a reward. It does not have to be a week, if it is bad make it at the end of each day, its only 99 cents and this will help her learn responsiblity for her actions and you will bond with your cousin by rewarding her. Make the stickers something she really likes to, it will make the game more fun. I hope this works and be patient remember when you are yelling, you cousin is winning. You have to be the one with the voice of reason.
Love this question.
Tracylyn
2007-01-05 07:50:02 · answer #1 · answered by Tracylyn S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At that age, the child cannot listen, understand, agree and act in a timely manner to avoid injury. You cannot protect them with verbal commands alone. You will need to stay close enough to her so that you can physically remove her from harm.
She is too young to be managed that way. Even if her mother and her aunt told her to obey you, that is not certain to work with this child.
When she is in a large, safe place, you can give her some space. When she is close to a street, stairs, stove or other potential hazard, you will need to be no farther than an arm's length away (your arm).
When you protect her this way, just say that you are keeping her from getting hurt. Leave the discipline up to her mom and aunt.
2007-01-05 07:15:32 · answer #2 · answered by Thomas K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to build up a relationship with her. If you kneel down to her level and speak to her about things she's interested in, she'll be more willing to speak to you whilst your on the same level as her. This will have to built up, don't expect a miracle! To start off, talk to her when she's not hurt, crying or tired, and ask her what she likes or even better what she would like to do with you. Playing or making things with her will build her confidence in you. Over time she will be confident enough that when she's hurt, upset or tired she can come to you, instead of running to mummy.
2007-01-05 07:20:44 · answer #3 · answered by pinkhyenas 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has to make a decision for themselves and if she decides not ot listen to you , there is nothing you can do about it.Don't stop giving her the best advice you can and try to stand by her whenever the need arises; help her to understand that you are not only her cousin but also her friend and if she chooses ;she will heed your advice.
2007-01-05 07:13:01 · answer #4 · answered by stacyhw 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't babysit the brat! if you are a paid nanny then thats different. make sure the mother knows whats going on and that she needs to have a talk with the kid. if she won't, get a different job.
2007-01-05 07:29:59 · answer #5 · answered by angel1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her contained choices. Tell her she can do this or this period. IE. put your toys away, or go to bed! Tell your aunt this is what you are going to start doing. If she doesn't like it tell her to get a new nanny.
2007-01-05 07:12:07 · answer #6 · answered by jrsabbc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you all three need to sit down and talk, the mother needs to make sure the kid understands that what you say goes! if she wont help you in this I sure wouldnt watch the kid anymore,,, its causing problems in your family. there has to be respect from the kid to the babysitter!. hope yall talk. gl.
2007-01-05 07:09:42 · answer #7 · answered by mother of 2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you can find some fun things to do
especially if there is a park with a play area
doing some fun stuff may help her warm up to you
2007-01-05 07:09:07 · answer #8 · answered by Spirit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try speaking to hear and giving her a tap in the palm of the hand when she does something wrong.i do it with my son and he listens most of the time.
2007-01-05 07:08:25 · answer #9 · answered by lilcharm7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bribe her!Sounds spoiled.
2007-01-05 07:08:56 · answer #10 · answered by lady2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋