my sons big test, can you help?

Question

my son is about to sit an entrance test for his secondary school and he is terrified. apart from lots of tlc and im here regardless of his results, how can i help him please??

Answer 1

Good night's sleep beforehand, decent breakfast in the morning. Tell him to READ the question, it's amazing how many people don't.

Answer 2

Hi,

Please read carefully:
Examination phobia can destroy or ruin your child’s future. It can lead to drastic personality changes in him or may even lead to withdrawal or hibernation in future or in worst sense to anti-social behavior. So it is important to understand the possible causes (apparent or hidden, on conscious level or unconscious level) and their “psycho-somatic” presentation. You child already showing one i.e. Tics.

Phobias, generally, are SUBJECTIVE, OBJECTIVE OR REACTIONARY.

Let me explain: it may be due to the reason that a person may not be studying well or to the extant he sould be. Result will be that he will become fearful to take the exam. ( fear of not meeting the expectations) . this fear may lead to some somatic reactions for example pains in joints, or diarrhea or tics or grimcing (in sever cases)
The other possibility is that he may be studying very hard day and night and relentlessly and fully able to meet the expectations but still “FEARFUL”. What will happen if I may not? This is especially true if somebody at home has accomplished some goal or distinction in some exam or subject before him. Or if PARENTS are expecting something from him? This fear of failure will cause sever anxiety and depression and lead to the same result …either examination phobia or some other also (combination of two or more)

Again it does not matter that you don’t expect from him. The matter is what he thinks about your expectations whether you tell him or not
It’s his interpretation or understanding concerning the family expectations. HIS SET OF THINKING. Not yours.
Now question is this if it is wrong for parents to have some expectations from their children?
No, Not at all.
It is perfectly ok. It is genuine and acceptable in all moral situations. But, sometimes things take the unwanted or undesired route.

Mind it: phobias of any kind, do not originate overnight. Most of them have their roots in early childhood either at home or at school or so on and it may not be “expectations” but hidden fears which are disabling him and taking the form of exam phobia.
Any comment during childhood by a brother, sister, father, mother, school teacher, or a friend can lead to this. Being “Hypersensitive” is also a cause and taking things deeply and “INFERIORITY COMPLEX” at any level can also shape into this.

Simply telling him that you don’t expect any thing from him is WRONG approach to solve this existing conflict. It may increase in intensity what he is fearing or feeling.

There is also another type of phobia, “functional phobia” where persons pretend to get some attention or sympathy. But I don’t thing it is the case with your child.

In short, you alone may not be able to resolve this phobic attitude. Your child needs professional help. A detailed analytic help to resolve the existing conflicts or fears. He needs few sessions of therapy either with Psychiatric or Psychologist (Clinical) or may be a group-therapy help him. Only a professional trained in this special field can determine what is needed and how to proceed.
I hope you will take the entire necessary step to help resolve this problem of your child.

Regards

Answer 3

I believe my mom had the right formula with me. For every major test, including my college entrance exams, she would always come in my room with healthy snacks while I was studying. I was terrible at taking breaks. Then she'd ask me sample questions, tell me I'd do fine, send me to bed at a decent hour for plenty of sleep, and she even made me breakfast the next morning. I always felt confident I'd do well on tests and never had hunger on my mind.

Answer 4

He wont really learn enough in anly last minute cramming to significanly alter his scores, but if you've got a book and ask him questions (perhaps even choose questions you think he's know) it may boost his confidence.

I totally agree with a good protien meal the night before and the morning of the test. Keep that bood sugar steady

Answer 5

Reassure him that if he has done all he can do to prepare, then it is out of his hands. If he is religious, have him say a quick prayer before hand.
Have him study using notecards. It REALLY works, and he can bring them with him to do some last minute cramming before the test. What will be, will be.
GOOD LUCK!

Answer 6

What i could do is have a instruct, which you have have been given recorded, and it exhibits adult men with plenty of their outfits off. occasion: Magic Mike 2. while the adult men start to strip, look at his crouch. in case you spot a bulge, you have affirmation that he's a few what into adult men, and extremely probably gay.

Answer 7

Just comfort him and tell him regardless what will be the outcome, he will still have a lot of other chances. and that you and your family will still support him as much..Never preach, or lecture

Answer 8

trust me, wait till the last minute to study, and a good breakfast, coffee during the test also

Answer 9

dont make him study the night before, and DONT make him party all night either. He needs sleep. Make shure he has eggs in the morning. Eggs have both good protein and work very well for the brain. Make shure he eats them. Dont make him stuff them in.

Answer 10

Don't let him masturbate before the test. Give him oral sex to make him feel relaxed.