My friend was killed in Iraq last month. He is all I think about. I don't laugh as much. I don't play as much. I don't care as much. Little things that used to matter, dont. I just keep thinking that he cant, why should I. I can't call him. I can't see him. He's just GONE. :(
2007-01-05 06:52:22 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Military
i'm sorry to read that you lost a good friend. you will never get over the loss of someone close to you, but time will ease the pain. that's basically what it will take....time. when you are sad, try to remember the better times you had with this person. its okay to cry, to be angry and depressed. it also helps to talk to others that have been through the same thing and also those who knew your friend as well. nothing beats sitting around talking stories about your friend.
2007-01-05 16:05:06 · answer #1 · answered by haikuhi2002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your loss. The sadness will be there indefinitely. In time though, the amount tends to fade eventually. You shouldn't completely forget him. What you can do is maybe make a small shrine to him in your local graveyard. Visit there every year. I know this may be for YOU in the long run. It should ease the pain eventually. It sounds like your friend was your best friend. You should keep his memory alive!! You shouldn't allow yourself to get sooo deep in this. If you do, you will become even more depressed. Unable to pick yourself back up. Would your friend want that? I think not!! You need to engage in other activities as well. So you don't dwell on the fact that he is gone. I'm not saying forget him completely, just try and put it to the back of your mind for now. So that you are able to function in the world. Its ok to talk about your friend ( keep his memory alive) Just do it slowly right now.
In time it will ease.
2007-01-05 07:11:37 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is probable that you will never really "Get over it", but you should go talk to someone about it. And it helps to think about all the positive things that you shared together. But you really should talk to someone, maybe there is someone that specializes in this particular type of loss. Even if you find some sort of support group so that you can share feelings with others that have similar experiences. Just remember the cause, and that he was not killed in vain.
2007-01-05 07:07:03 · answer #3 · answered by NCOIC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is life. Life has to move on. Life brings you all kinds of emotions, happiness, sadness, but life and fate are things that no one controls. Your friend and you are not the same person and so you should live your life to its fullest, i am sure that is what your friend would want if he had the chance to tell you. I'm sorry for your loss.
2007-01-05 08:07:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's natural to grieve over a loss. In time I think it would help you to connect with others going through this type of loss...I feel it will help you also. I'm sorry, I know loss is so hard:(
2007-01-05 07:06:11 · answer #5 · answered by Texaz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your loss. He is not gone his memory will remain with you forever. They say everything happens to us for a reason please don't let his death destroy your life he would not want that. Try to find a way to live life for the both of you, because his laughter was silenced yours has to be loud enough for the both of you.
2007-01-05 08:38:25 · answer #6 · answered by puzzled 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋