bad boyfriend.....im confused?? what should I do??

Question

hmmm what should I do my boyfriend hasn't gotten me a christmas present and he hasn't been herre in 13 days now and hasn't phoned me in 6 days what should I do?? I wanna break up with him but should I phone him and tell him to come over and do it or wait for him to phone me?? one thing I know for shure is that he has to come back he has acouple of belongings here unless he dosent want them I dunno do you think he cheated on me?? im soo confused

Answer 1

Well if you want to break up with him then I think you should. Call him and if he doesn't answer your call leave him a message saying that you need to talk to him as soon as possible. I think that he might be cheating on you or just doesn't like you anymore. If he was going to get you a Christmas present I think he would have given it to you by now. I don't know what to tell you but if I were you I would break up with him as soon as possible.

Answer 2

I'm with you. Been there. I've never been a Muslim, but you know, much of the Muslim religion is more accurate than much of the Christian ones are. Satan is the ultimate deceiver. He's deceived millions of people and the sad truth is, almost none of them even realize this. Many of them worship a false god and don't even know it. In their hearts they're right, which is great. You must follow your heart, but someone of true faith must also open their mind, which is what you seem to be doing. From where I stand, each religious faction is both right and wrong. In the end, most of us believe there is only one God that we answer to and one savior, Jesus Christ. Whatever name we give them, based on whatever religious faction we've been brought up with, is irrelevant. Islam gets bad press unnecessarily. This is the same for all religions. Those who truly believe and follow God's rules 100% are cool. Those who are extremists, doing what they think is right and are indeed very wrong I have strong issues against. Not only are they dishonoring God through acts of terrorism, violence and any other abusive means, they are actually fulfilling Satan's wishes. Many of them don't even realize they're doing it, because they think they're in the right. Because of this, confusion about religion continues to have it's issues. It's sad, really. Follow your heart. That's number one! I know what the answers are going to be like here as you'll have fundamentalist Muslims, Christians and others trying to state their way is the only way. Those who claim such a thing are just as bad as the terrorists. If you want the truth, or which path is the correct one, do what I've been now doing and that's read the bible from start to finish and treat it for what it is, your bible. Read everything and don't let other people's voices influence you. You're at this stage right now because God is calling you. He's calling out to many who are willing to wake up and stop blindly following a religion simply because it's tradition or they were brought up in it. You've got a strong mind and a strong heart. Use them both with conviction. Read the Bible and the New Testament. If you're confused, follow the links I'm going to provide here. Yes, some of them come from specific church organizations, but for what's it's worth, I haven't 100% sworn myself to any just yet as my heart needs to be 100% sure it's the right path. What does your heart tell you? Listen to your heart. Don't listen to the radicals! 100% of the time the radicals are in error as they'll lead you to believe their way is the only way, which is wrong. It's not about their way. It's about God's way. Always has been and always will be.

Answer 3

I would get together with him in person and ask him what's going on and explain how you feel to him. From the sounds of your story, I don't know if it's cheating persay, but it really sounds like he's distancing himself away from you, because he wants to break things off, but he hasn't gotten up the courage to do so. If you have a problem with your boyfriend, there's no reason why you should wait around for him. You have every right to call him up, or hunt him down and ask him what's up. And maybe, just maybe, there's something going on in his life that he just hasn't told you about that he's been dealing with. Talking to him is the best thing you can do. Communication is key.

Answer 4

:( ok listen to me
Just because he hasnt called nor seen u for a while doesnt mean a thing .
Neither does the Christmas thing ,
If u love the guy , and if he loves u , Dont worry ,
i dont know what other stuff you've been through
but id say trust him and give a chance, dont leave him because he "might " be doing something
and i beleive what that other person said also
If your so worried call him , stop being lazy ,
A relationship is 2 way, if ur not willing to call him , then i hope he Dumps you ,
your not worth it .
hes not a bad boyfriend , Have u conciderd urself? are u a bad girlfriend ?

I dont mean to be disrespectful at all , but hey, i dont know anymore then what u said so :) id say cheer up

Answer 5

OK....That's weird....he hasn't called you in 6 days? Is he ok? Does he usually not call you? Anyway besides that you said you want to break up with him so do it! Call him and tell him he has things at your place that you want him to come get and that you need to talk to him and once he gets there break up with him. I think that you shouldn't be confused since the guy is avoiding you...he does'nt seem to care or he would have called you by now. I don't think it matters if he cheated on you or not,obviously he is moving on in some way so i say.....breakup move on and be strong!

Answer 6

If you know you want to end the relationship regardless of whether he's cheating or not, pack his stuff in a bag, consider the relationship over and wait for him to contact you so you can make it official. However, there are other factors to consider...how long you have been together, if he has treated you with this kind of disrespect (or any other kind) before. Try to get past your emotions before you talk to him so you can think and speak clearly. Good luck.

Answer 7

i think every gal goes through this type of guy at some point in their life and knowing from experience i think u should actually be strong and confront him with it and act strong; by doing this u show im that what ever he might say ur ok with it because ur a woman and u have the will to move on....I say Go over there and talk to him face to face so u can read his reactions better than doing it on the phone.

Answer 8

i had aboyfriend who treated me like taht and i took it for way to long never having the guts to break up with him,always taking my time asking myself the same questions your asking yourself. I also found out that he had been cheating on me. But the truth is even if he isnt cheating on you,he still doesnt treat you the way any woman deserves to be treated. I learnt the hard way,that if a man really wants to be with you,talk to you and you see, he will make the effort. Dont call,dont ask him to come over,eventually he will and thats when you can tell him its over.You deserve better. I know its hard now but you will very soon.

Answer 9

If you want to talk you should do the calling you can't sit around and hopes he calls.As for breaking up do whatever feels right to you. If you really want to break up with him but you can't face him the phone is the next best thing.Don't break up with him because you think he has cheated on you be sure before you take action.

Answer 10

I would say don't call him, but you need to so you can find out what's going on...he doesn't even need to explain unless someone died, or he's going thru something because not hearing from him or seeing him this long is really not a good sign. Call him and tell him to come get his things and if he wants to explain then let him, but if he has no exucse then he's OUT!