Wedding Question. Who Walks the Bride Down the Aisle If Her Father Is Deceased?

Question

I have never been to, or involved in, a wedding. Therefore, I don't know what is customary. I have come to believe, however, that the father always walks the bride down the aisle, to 'give her away' to her future husband. My father passed away recently, and I am getting married next summer. What other options have you heard of?

Addition details, in case they become relevant. My mother is deceased as well, I have no siblings who could give me away, I have no godparents, no step parents, my father has no brother who could do it, and I have never met any of my mother's side of the family. I'm running out of options!

Answer 1

A lot of brides are choosing to walk down the aisle alone. This is your moment and there is nothing that says anyone HAS to walk you down the aisle.

Think of it as giving yourself away, on behalf of your parents.

Answer 2

Under the circumstances, why not ask a good friend? Or one of your aunts?

There is another option as well. The concept of being given away by someone is a nod to the idea of woman as property. In the past, including the not-too-distant past, and even today in some parts of the world, marriages were arranged as part of a property transfer or as a way of forging and strengthening alliances.

If you don't agree that women are property, then why have anyone treat you as such by giving you away?

My condolences on your most recent loss, and on all of your losses. I'm sure you would much rather have your family around to share not just your wedding day but all of the joyous and sad days in your life.

Answer 3

My parents are both deceased so I know how you feel I had planned on having my sisters walk me down the aisle but have since decided on my closest friends I don't think it matters anymore just do what you feel is right it's your special day

Answer 4

A friend of mine just got married and also was in the same boat as you. She just asked a man that she knew who was in the military, he wore his marine uniform and looked handsome. But, when I got married, I walked myself down the aisle. There's nothing in the ceremony that says you have to say, who's giving this woman away. Our minister said the only thing you HAVE to say is the "by the power invested in me, I now pronounce you man and wife", the ceremony can be anything you want and you can have anyone you want walk you down or don't be afraid to do it yourself!! Good luck!!!!!!!!

Answer 5

You could always walk down by yourself. Just meet your groom at the end of the aisle. If you have a veil, have that pulled back already.

Answer 6

It is your choose on who you want, You can ask a close friend, Or one of your friends dad if you are close to them. Or walk down the aisle alone. Good luck and congrats

Answer 7

Girl, first of all, take a deep breath! Is there a positive male role model that you looked up to or that had some sort of influence in your life? If not, then ask an influential female. Honestly, its up to you. Think of who has had an impact on you and I would choose them.

Let me know if you need anything else!

Answer 8

A good male friend, a close neighbour, any role model-teacher, one of your spouse-to-be's good friend. You can walk yourself but it usually looks better for appearance sake, to have that someone escorting you down the aisle.

Answer 9

Instead of trying to figure out who comes next in the list, just think of the people you want there with you. Is there someone important for you, a friend, a relative, who you would want to bestow this honor to?

Answer 10

Use a father figure. A male that you look up to or that is a close friend.