Being a single mom, I feel like all I do is work, come home, cook, get her ready for bed, and thats it! I am so frustrated with myself! I want to spend more time with her, yet I don't. Any suggestions on how I can make time to do things with my lil one??
2007-01-05 06:41:17 · 14 answers · asked by me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think that its great that your putting and effort as a single mom to do all work. I congratulate you. I think your a great mother. but taking the time to listen to your kids and spend some time with them. Take one day off (Sunday) and spend with them going to the park,cinema, wherever.
2007-01-05 06:43:32 · answer #1 · answered by Haley 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say you want to but you don't. If being with your child was important, you'd make time. Okay, well, depending on her age, you can "play" together and let her help with some easy cooking tasks. You can give her a bath and spend an extra 30 minutes playing with bath toys/bubbles. You can make a game out of folding laundry. You can tell stories or read at bedtime. You can have a nightly ritual, like a "tea party" with a mini-tea set and warm milk before bed. You can play dress up for 20-30 minutes. Depending on the time of day, you can walk around the block. You can put on music and dance together for 15-20 minutes.
Use your imagination.
2007-01-05 06:48:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try getting her to "help" with the cooking and cleaning. Even if she's too young to really help, she can do little things, and it might even take a little bit longer, but she'll still be spending time with you. And make getting ready for bed a pleasant, you two together ritual. Maybe read her a story, or if you haven't got time for that, just take five minutes and chat with her about her day in school (or daycare, depending on the age). It doesn't take much. You don't have to spend hours and hours of time, it's quality, not quantity.
2007-01-05 06:50:12 · answer #3 · answered by Viki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on how old she is, include her in your routine. My son loves to help me cook and clean and we make a game out of it. I have a b/f but he is not my son's father so I still say I am a single mom, he is still my responsibility. Sometimes you need to just let the house go for a day or two so you can spend time with her. Or, wait until she goes to bed to clean up, it takes away from the "me time" but it's worth it. There is no book to being the perfect mom. Your daughter loves you and to me that is the reward for being a good mom. As long as she is happy, don't worry about anything else. Hug her and love her. Hugs to you from another single mom.
2007-01-05 06:46:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a matter of commitment and priorities. I would suggest that you schedule an hour a day no matter what happens to spend with the child and just listen to what she has to say and cuddle with her in her bed and read her a book or something. I absolutely understand that all this is easy to talk than to do in reality.
Hats off to you for atleast accepting the fact that you need to spend some time with the kid. I guess you have taken the first step that is accepting your shortcoming. I am sure you are a wonderful mother and will work out something that will suit your schedule. Good luck
2007-01-05 06:48:28 · answer #5 · answered by SP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a friend with kids and meet her at the park for a picnic with the kids after work. They can play themselves out, you spend time together and with a friend, while your kid makes friends too. It makes the whole routine easier. Cooking together is another way to save time and keep everyone happy! Or take turns eating at each other's house. Then you only cook every other night. Getting together with someone else in the same boat makes it much easier and gives you some back up too. Good luck!
2007-01-05 06:47:07 · answer #6 · answered by wish I were 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the only solution i know to deal with this problem is to find a job where u can reach home much earlier than usual that way have more time to spend with her and when u get day offs try to spend as much time wth her as u can or u caan take a vaction plan a big trip just u and her and u can have ur fun there or when u get home in the night eat together an d talk to each other before she goes to bed play a little game with her and sing to her when ur putting her to bed
2007-01-05 06:47:13 · answer #7 · answered by Pink Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too was in this situation. I was a single mom of 2 girls and I felt the same way that you do. The best thing I can tell you to do is figure out what you want. BREATH! And enjoy eachother. The older the child gets, the easier things will be for you. But the best thing of all is to have fun with her and love her. She will remember that forever. Best of luck to you!
2007-01-05 06:45:25 · answer #8 · answered by baybedoll1977 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well go to a drive thrue once and a while that will give u less cooking and cleaning make time u can do it take her to the park take a day a week just 4 u 2 and let othere people know this is hour time together good luck
2007-01-05 06:46:21 · answer #9 · answered by kyfixedit 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mom was a single mom, and she had to do everything! But as I grew up, I knew that if she didn't spend time with me, it' because she couldn't, not because she didn't want to. I guess the most important thing is to make the best of the time you do have with your kid, if it's not quantity, make it quality.
2007-01-05 06:44:32 · answer #10 · answered by Manu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋