Do I have a sex addiction? How and where should I get help?

Question

I think about having sex with different women all the time. I have a steady girlfriend and we have frequent sex, but I still have sex with other women. I have very little self control when it comes to trying to be monogamous. Whenever I encounter a woman that I think is attractive, I'll make the moves on her. I travel for work and have been damn lucky with meeting women when I'm out of town. I don't know how to stop. I have protected sex, but am very afraid that I might catch an STD. Yet I can't control my impulses when I'm with a beautiful woman. I tried watching porn to satisfy my urges, but that didn't help because it just wasn't realistic for me.

Answer 1

http://saa-recovery.org/

Sex addicts anonymous.

Ignore most other answers, this is something that not many people can understand - maybe taking the test at: http://saa-recovery.org/12ques.htm will help you understand if you have a problem.

Hope you find some answers.

Answer 2

A sex addiction is not an addiction until it interferes with your social, work, or personal life. Depending on your age, upbringing, morality and many other factors you may be experiencing what other in similar conditions are experiencing. As long as you are having protected sex I would say to continue with your lifestyle.

From what I have gathered, you ARE experiencing certain discomfort with this. Whether this lifestyle is giving you any more problems than the personal ones you're experiencing it would be good for you to seek some professional advice. You don't want this to become an obsession and ruin your personal life and the possibility of having long lasting, meaningful relationships.

Good luck!

Answer 3

You're in for some serious trouble.
First of all, let's think about your girlfriend.
If she finds out, your steady relationship stat. is OVER.
The end. Period. End of story.
Second, you need to go out there and get some hobbies on,
because your sexual hormones are going over the limit and that is SOOO not healthy for you.
Third, if you can't find any hobbies,
go do a team sport,
or just a solo sport, if you think some attractive women in your team will fire up your hormones again.
You need to start focusing on your girlfriend also.
You may not know it now,
but she can seriously help you out.

Answer 4

Self Control! Practice It. Once you set your mind to something you should be able to achieve it or Maybe you dont want to??

I also think you should tell your steady girlfriend. She needs to be aware of the fact that you are with lots of different people sexually.

Answer 5

I think because this has taken over your life and you admit to losing control that you definitely have a problem. I would look into a support group after seeing a professional counselor. They would keep it confidential. It's up to you to take charge. You can't have a normal relationship or existence if you don't.

Answer 6

An addiction is anything that interferes with your life. What you call it is less important however than how you feel about it. If you want to be monogamous but can't seem to manage it, you may want to see a therapist to see if they can help you.

Answer 7

You should look for groups in your area that deal with people who have the same problems as you. Look in the phone book or ask your Primary care physician to give you a recommendation.

Answer 8

That is who you are. Be it. Enjoy it...but you MUST tell your steady girl about it. She has the right to know you have other partners.

Answer 9

if it makes you feel better that poisin inside is i all of us..
It ia natural, to a point, then if it seems your actions may lead to a time ware your actions towards some one may turn illegal, it is time to see a shrink, befor it gets ant worse.

Answer 10

I used to have the same problem.

You know what worked for me?

Weight gain, and lots of it!!!