What should we do when we fall in love with the right person, but he is nothing but all wrong to others?

Answer 1

If you are in love with somebody you wouldn't care or listen to what others have to say about him.

Answer 2

What "others"? He's your boyfriend and it's your life. Unless you are under 18 and live with your parents. If not, then why worry about what anyone else says? HOWEVER, often times your loved ones and friends can see what you just can't, because you are "blinded" by love or lust - you may want to consider their concerns and ask them just what exactly they don't like about him. Think about what they are telling you, and if two or more have the same concerns, I'd definitely think about it a LOT. Because though you can't see it now, once the "newness" of love wears off, it may become clearer and then where will you be? Ultimately, the choice is yours (if you are an adult).

Answer 3

I wish you had given more information. Sometimes, love just kind of attacks us out of nowhere. If it's real, honest, and important to you, then you have to decide if it's worth any potential costs in the way of family and friends. I lost relationships over my husband, friendships and family members. It's harder than you think. Be careful not to get sucked into the Romeo and Juliet of it all. In the end, it's just two people, and whatever is between you. I hope the best for you, whatever that may be, and peace of mind. Another little bit of advice: If 40 people tell you the sky is green, you should at least look out the window.

Answer 4

If EVERYONE thinks he is wrong, then you might want to second think your choice here. Friends and family often see a person for who they really are (a womanizer who will cheat, a guy using you for your money etc.) while the person in the relationship is blinded by love. In a haze if you will. Why do they think he is wrong, and why do you think he is the right person? I need to know these things before I go any further.

Answer 5

First, you listen to the others. You have nothing to lose by hearing other opinions. Ask questions, have discussions. Then, you look at their objections and weigh them objectively, are they valid? Are they made out of concern for you, or is there another agenda (e.g. fear of change). Don't just blow the objections off. If you think there may be some truth to some of them, then when you are in a situation that is a good test for whatever objection it is, observe the bf. Maybe they are seeing something you didn't. Love can be blind. Good luck.

Answer 6

If you decide to fall in love with a person who is nothing like your friends or family or former love interests, you really should ask yourself why you chose someone outside of your norm- are you trying to rebel or are you bored? If your friends and family think he's all wrong for you, you should listen. If he doesn't fit in, you'll soon be without many friends.

Answer 7

It really doesn't matter what other people think here it is about what you feel in your heart. No one will have to be there when you are hurting except for the one you love and be there for you when you fall down he will be there so why do you worry about what others think, forget them and live, love and enjoy! Peace be with you always!

Answer 8

Don't care what others think. All that matters is what you think. In time, others will see for themselves why the person you love is so great. For example, I dated 2 atheists and my family was against it since I was raised religious. But in time, the atheism didn't bother them because both guys had good hearts and other great qualities.

Answer 9

Think if he is a good person first, that is most important. The way others see him doesn't matter much at all, but don't blind yourself by your own thoughts... I supposse that if he's a relatively good person, then you should tell him you love him and perhaps start a relationship. :)

Answer 10

I'm not sure I understand your question but I'd ask you why do you care what anyone else thinks about your relationship? If you think he's the right person then that's what's right for you.

FP

Answer 11

you should pay attention to all those saying "who cares what everyone else thinks". that is- you should follow their suggestion by not caring what they think. its SO hollywood to fall for the one everyone says you should stay away from. but in real life, a wise person considers the wisdom of others, particularly in important matters. Consider: what would possibly motivate family and friends to warn you off of somebody that you obviously liked? because they hate you and don't want you to be happy? or because they can see things that you can't? duh...