My fiance was divorced and has a daughter who is 3 1/2 years old and doesn't even recognize that she has wet herself. The mother who has custody during the week says she just isn't ready, and she would still be nursing if my fiance didn't live 3 hours away. My fiance wants to start potty training any ideas on what to do?
2007-01-05 06:15:18 · 12 answers · asked by exracehorsechick 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Dual cooperation between parents would be ideal, but you can't MAKE someone do something they don't want to. Best take a proactive lead and take it one weekend at a time and eventually she'll have to follow suit.
FYI...
Disposable diapers have a way of disguising wetness so she may not be to truly detect when she's wet or she's simply being stubborn about it. 3 1/2 years is a reasonable age to commence potty training. You, your fiance and the x should read up on the process well before starting. Buy the potty first (a transition from potty to toilet gives the girl options) maybe even let her shop to choose one for herself stressing that only big girls are given a potty. She may also want to help pick out the big girl underwear (Buy LOTS...there's bound to be accidents and she'll likely want/need to bring some home). She may not jump to the potty at first but having it around may make it seem less intimidating. One weekend, lose the diapers all together and be prepared for her to have some accidents. Take her every hour to the toilet and reward her every time she makes an accomplishment. (sit on toilet, pees, poops, washes hands). Rewards can be chocolates, stickers, hugs, a dance....whatever.
2007-01-05 06:50:58 · answer #1 · answered by Shorty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though kids have the ability to learn different rules in different settings, this is one area where you really need the cooperation of the other parent. Children who are learning to toilet train really need consistency above all else. You can certainly try to have the child go potty while with the father, but it will be difficult if the other caregiver is not participating in the effort. When the child is at your home, you can get her some underware to wear so that she can start getting the idea of what it feels like to be wet. This comprehension is a big step in potty training. Also start taking her potty on a consistent schedule, first thing in the morning, after a snack, before lunch, before nap, after nap, and after dinner. This will get her into the routine of going potty. Then, make sure to talk to the mother and explain that this is what you are doing. It will work better as a joint venture, but do what you can.
2007-01-05 16:59:26 · answer #2 · answered by dolphin mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you marrying into this dysfunctional family. The ex isn't going to stop being a part of your fiance's life. I tell my kids all the time, you date the family not the individual, because you are marrying the family, not just the individual. If the family is a mess, your marriage is going to be a mess. Get out while you can.
Oh, and the toilet training, chill. The girl is a mess 'cause of her screwed up parents and it's still early in the game. She might not be ready. Every kid is different.
2007-01-05 14:20:58 · answer #3 · answered by Hank Hill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is 15 months, and I just the other day sat him on the potty for a while, and he went! I thought I'd introduce it to him early, and see how he does. So I'm gonna keep it up and see if we can get him potty trained- and definitely before 3 yrs. That's crazy she's 3 1/2. I say keep with it, read her potty training books while she goes (our son loves being read to, so this is what I did). IT helps get them to sit there for a little bit. So stick with it... and if you have to, put regular undies on her, if she pees in them, she might not like it so well, and then want to go in the potty- this is what my husband's step mom did with her daughter and it worked. P.S.- make a big deal of it when she does go in the potty- my son grinned forever because I kept saying ,"Good boy!!! You went pee pee in the big boy potty!" He just loved it!
Goodluck.
2007-01-05 14:24:42 · answer #4 · answered by m930 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do your best, the child will come to recognize that the behavior is not liked in your house and will do it only in the mothers home. Just don't rush potty training, its a slow process and if you force the issue it can become an issue.
2007-01-05 14:18:58 · answer #5 · answered by Old guy 124 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy that little girl some really cool Dora cotton panties and let her go potty in the big girl potty!
2007-01-05 16:55:53 · answer #6 · answered by arewethereyet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get custody of the baby
2007-01-05 14:17:13 · answer #7 · answered by travelguruette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well : you must under stand about "Single Parenthood"
it's very important thing yes because potty trainng an child will
help out for sure ! also see an peditritionist ok ? refer
http://www.toddlerhealth.com
2007-01-05 14:43:35 · answer #8 · answered by toddk57@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow... that is sad. get custody of that kid! the mother needs to realize that kid is NOT a baby.. you cannot breastfeed a 31/2 year old.. and keep it in diapers! that is just wrong.
2007-01-05 14:25:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 AND A HALF SHE SHOULD HAVE BEEN TRAINED AT 2 THAT'S CRAZY WHY DO PEOPLE HAVE BABIES AND THEN RAISE THEM HOWEVER! I SHOWED MY SON VISUALLY HOW TO DO IT AND HE LEARNED FROM COPYING ME HE DID HAVE HIS ACCIDENTS THOUGH!
2007-01-05 14:19:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋