my boyfriend just gave me a promise ring for christmas i love him very much i want to be with him forever! but he told me last night he had to go to the hospital because his ex gf had a baby and it might be his! ive been up all night crying. hoping and praying every thing turns out ok. he dosent want to be with her and says he only wants to love me forever! what should i do?
2007-01-05 06:13:13 · 9 answers · asked by Sabrina B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have no idea what you are stepping into. If it is his child then break up. You will take second seat to his child for the next 18 years. And his X will be playing games with you two for those 18 years too.
2007-01-05 06:22:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's tough. I was in a similar situation a few years ago...with the exception that the guy and I were at the start of a relationship...and it *was* a tough relationship. He was told from the beginning that he was the father. So, through the pregnancy and soon after the birth (when he found out he WASN'T the father), he struggled with what sort of relationship he could or wanted to have with me...with anyone. In the end (after 3 long years), it just didn't work with us.
Again, your guy could be totally different and be able to deal with the emotional turmoil in stride. But what should *you* do in the meantime? If you haven't already, ask yourself if you can handle being in a relationship with a guy who will have parental responsibilities. That most likely means less time with you. If you *can* handle this, then be very supportive of him, be there for him, be patient. If this isn't what you want out of a relationship, then it's best to end it before it gets too ugly and move on.
Good luck!
2007-01-05 06:34:24 · answer #2 · answered by caligal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a guy and I say you should distance yourself from him and think: what did he promise the girl now in the hospital months ago? You should identify with her, and not be blinded by your feelings for him. I think that guys can often get two women thinking that they are enemies of each other but instead it's the guy they should both be angry at and careful about.
2007-01-05 06:18:18 · answer #3 · answered by Antonio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need that drama in your life... If it is his child move on. He will need to be in that childs life - one way or another... Regardless if he wants to be with her or not, he will have to have a relationship with the girl for the childs sake. One more thing to think about.. If he knew of the possibility that this child is his - where was he to help this girl during her pregnancy and delivery? That doesn't say much about his character. You might want to watch out for him.
2007-01-05 06:18:47 · answer #4 · answered by smartypants 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust that if it's his kid he'll take care of it. He should of told you before now that the kid might exist. I think if he is your man and you trust him enough to except his ring that you should trust him enough to stay with you. Worrying is just going to make you miserable relax and he'll show his true colors. Good Luck.
2007-01-05 06:18:57 · answer #5 · answered by Lilbear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did he cheat on u? if he did, leave him, he'll do it again, i swear. if it was from before u two met, then, think about this one. are u gonna be ok with this if it's his? if not, break it off soon. cuz it's gonna kill ya the rest of ur life. if you love him so much that ur willing to bear with it, and he absolutely feels the same way, go with it. just don't wait too long to do something. it'll kill ya.
2007-01-05 06:22:39 · answer #6 · answered by rice_burner503 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL EVERYTHING SHOULD BE OK.....
IF HE GAVE YOU A PROMISE RING HE MUST REALLY LOVE YOU....
JUST HOPE THAT THE BABY ISNT HIS....
CAUSE IF THE EX G/F STILL LIKES HIM....
SHE WILL TRY TO MAKE YOUR LIFE MISERABLE....
2007-01-05 06:19:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its simple, just stay by his side no matter if the child is his or not, make sure that he is taking care of his kid IF it turns out to be his.....Thats what a real man does......He can still be with you and have another kid
2007-01-05 06:19:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk about a kick in the nuts!!! I mean, if you had them.........
Mr Happy
:o)
2007-01-05 06:26:11 · answer #9 · answered by hagtagg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋