2007-01-05 06:10:38 · 21 answers · asked by MaryBeth 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Way too little info here for real advice.
Assuming you are dating someone new who is wanting to move fast...............read your own question.......if you're afraid it is probably best to slow down. And Honestly that's easier said than done. If you date a person that is really in tune to you and your needs the relationship will last. PERIOD. That's what you want isn't it? Someone who can have patience and understanding. If you are strong enough slow down because you are obviously already stressing out!
After my third divorce I went to college and earned a psycholgy degree. I actually didn't marry the first person I dated for the first time in my life. I dated a few guys but guess what? I married the one that rushed things the most and I know it would have been much smarter to slow it down and learn about him BEFORE I married him. I was swept up with daily flowers, sweet notes left all over my house......how could it go wrong?? HaHa, it stopped the minute I said I do and now I'm struggling to adjust. Maybe if I'd made him keep that up for a couple of years it would have become the norm for him and lasted. :)
2007-01-05 06:22:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Entering into a new relationship is always risky. Just follow your heart and have fun. There is always a chance you may get hurt. Unfortunatly I don't think you can chance falling in love and have a good time if you are always guarding a piece of yourself. Just work on yourselof before working on a relationship.
2007-01-05 06:18:05 · answer #2 · answered by universalthinkers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't woory about getting hurt, do you worry you might choke everytime you eat? Because that would kill you, and I bet you don't let that stop you enjoying food do you?
Being hurt is hard, but I embrace all the pain I have ever felt, and the more you feel, the less it hurts. I sound mental, yes I do, but trust me on this, I'm not.
2007-01-05 06:24:41 · answer #3 · answered by CHARISMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be afraid.
If you feel the possibility that you're going to get hurt,
or if you've already been hurt,
maybe this person's not the right person for you.
Just act naturally,
and don't let this rule over your life.
Remember,
relationships are about loving and enjoying spending time with the one you love,
not about worrying about failure.
2007-01-05 06:16:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your time and allow things to process naturally. Don't force anything and/or be forced to make any decisions that you feel you may regret later. Your instincts are usually right and if you follow what they are saying and not try and make the choices you feel are cool or make you more like or accepted, then you will probably be selecting the correct things.
2007-01-05 06:14:21 · answer #5 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you want to take things slower then do so... if he is really worth it he will respect your decision... if he disregards your feelings then remember you are better than that... there is someone out there for everyone... this could be the guy for you or it might not be... so sit down and talk about it, keep a cool head and avoid an argument.... good luck and i hope it all works out
2007-01-05 06:19:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was the same way...I just decided to take it slow too and it is not a bad decision..It works out if your mate tries to push you too fast then they are not worth it.
2007-01-05 06:13:46 · answer #7 · answered by Ash 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a helmet, that's life.
Getting hurt is part of living, it happens to us all.
Being afraid of being hurt is that same as being afraid to live.
tc
2007-01-05 06:12:39 · answer #8 · answered by timc_fla 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sunshine,Would you be happy with someone who works hard,does not drink, does not smoke,saves,not a Lier,not a player,and treats you decent?Sunshine ,If he is all of those good things , go for it.
2007-01-05 06:20:34 · answer #9 · answered by (A) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slow down. Play it cool.
2007-01-05 06:12:29 · answer #10 · answered by Cow 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋