Here's my story in a nutshell..hopefully
I was with my boyfriend for 4 yrs, everything was great.. agood relationship but he had this problem commitment phobia...every year we would break up, and every year we got back we got closer to the reality that the next step in the relationship was an engegement or obvious marriage...we are still very young (24) but it only seemed natural...this is when he would pull away and do stupid things like act aloof..jerkish,then we would break up....
this last september we break up for good...he got a rebound girlfriend soon after and I started dating...then..yesterday he calls to wish a happy new year's and then calls againg and says he needs to see me.. I agreed, it had been 4 months since I had seen him and the whole time it felt as we had never broken up, like we just had a fight and made up, laughing..joking etc etc.. but when he asked about my current "date" I saw his eyes water up..by the end of the night he had confessed he still loves me, but
2007-01-05 06:04:19 · 7 answers · asked by red_klinik 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he doesn't want to hurt me again with this fear of him...he wants to see me I feel confused...I love him
2007-01-05 06:05:29 · update #1
Unfortunately many of the people on yahoo think that love is the panacea for everything if it was we would not have a 50% divorce rate.
Marriage is like a cake you need many ingredients to have a successful one, such as respect for each other, selflessness- the ability to sacrifice your own needs for the other person, perseverance- the ability to do things for your partner even when the feeling is not there, love- always thinking about ways to improve and enhance your partners life.
What I see from your question is addiction and if you can't see some of these ingredients it is probably not a good match.
2007-01-05 06:28:40 · answer #1 · answered by Ynot! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he confessed to you how he feels then honor him and be with him and be happy! It is obvious that you both still love each other and that is the most important thing here so go and enjoy your life with him..And may God bless both of you with nothing but happiness and goodness all the days of your young lives!
2007-01-05 14:23:40 · answer #2 · answered by beagirl40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both sound as if you are codependent on each other! He more so than you. However, it is not a healthy relationship. Were you doing fine without him? If so, don't get back together with him! There are alot of great guys out there. You are young and should explore your options!
2007-01-05 14:08:05 · answer #3 · answered by Shannon G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you honestly are still in love with him. you should consider the facts of what could happen next time. make sure that he won't hurt you again like he did. if you truly are in love with this guy you wont have any problems. just take the time and talk it out with him!!
Good Luck to you!!!
2007-01-05 14:10:09 · answer #4 · answered by ~It's Me~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go with the flow, dont rush it, don't push it. let it happen naturally. then if it is meant to be, It will be. if it wasnt, it never was. just like the old saying if you love someone let them go, if they return then it is meant to be, if they don't then it never was meant to be.. just go with the flow, you can love him, but let it be a natural love that grows together.
2007-01-05 14:09:53 · answer #5 · answered by Spirit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF HE SAYS THAT HE LOVES YOUTHAN YOU SHOULD TRUST THAT LOVE THE THING IS DO YOU LOVE HIM STILL MAYBE YOU SHOULD GIVE THE RELATIONSHIP ANOTHER CHANCE
2007-01-05 14:09:34 · answer #6 · answered by KIMBERLY P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go with ur heart
2007-01-05 14:08:34 · answer #7 · answered by spongebobdaniellepants 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋