what is wimpish parenting?

Question

what couses wimpish,
The advantages and disadvantages of wimpish parenting.
How to stop wimpish

Answer 1

Telling your children something and then asking OK?
Telling them over and over to stop doing something but with no consequences.
Not enforcing rules.
Allowing them to run amok.

Bad Children come from Bad Parents.

Train the parents.

Answer 2

I haven't heard of this but I do understand the concept. I liken good parenting to be like plant pruning, a little intervention makes for something beautiful that will flourish & be the best it can be. All left uncontrolled (with the child as boss) results in a weak & straggly weed.

The parent being in control isn't about stifling the child or holding back their sense of fun or individuality, more about setting healthy boundaries. After all we as adults have to live by society's rules & a child has to learn the ropes of that early on.

How to stop being wimpish....saying no occasionally + meaning it I guess. Set the boundaries. Lead by example. Kids watch more what you do rather than what you say + can be clever to test your limits. Keep a level head & keep calm!

Answer 3

my definition of wimpish parenting is the parent being controlled by the child. it whines and you give or and freak out and dont know what to do. remember that you're in control. you need to establish this early so it doesnt keep progressing until your child is out of control. kids need consistency. you cant punish them one day for something because you're feeling strong and then the next day let them get away with it because you're feeling weak. wimpish parenting has no advantages. all you can do is take control. you've seen parents on tv who have no idea what to do with their out of control kid who's like 4 years old. dont be one of those people who has to ask for advice because you dont know how to be a parent. discipline them for things that are wrong. my 11 month old only needs to hear the word no ONE time. you have to know how to train up a child. start early and always be consistent.

Answer 4

Proper parenting involves fair and honest handling of children and their needs. It begins by treating children as... yes you guessed it.... children!

A wimpish parent (WP) will tell you that their offspring is a miniature adult, and is entitled to their opinion at the expense of harmony in the home.

WPs will follow the crowd in their own behaviour and expect their children to do likewise.

WPs like to stifle ingenuity and individualism by methods borne of fear - the fear of being different.

I am NOT a WP; my children are well-adjusted, have hobbies which bear no correlation to their ages, eat sensibly, hold rational and lucid conversations, and know their own minds.

If you put a fire out with water, it becomes extremely difficult to re-light!

Answer 5

There are for types of parenting and only one of them is good

Neglectful = you can guess thiss one

Permissive= what you call wimpish, where the child is rarely disciplined and is given full control over most decisions. bad for creating a model for adulthood

Authoritarian = loats of 'do i say' and shouting and demanding, very bad for self-esteem and teaching social rules

And the gold standard is...
Authorative = A preant who will listen and make a decision that's is as close to what the child wants and needs. A preant who will love and who disciplines fairly when necessary, one who recognises and admits mistakes but is strong when they are in the right.

Answer 6

I think that wimpish parenting is when you let your child get away with everthing becasue the parent cant handle the tantrums!
Thus the child in later life doesnt know right from wrong and cant handle the word NO!......

Answer 7

ive seen this a lot lately-its like the parent is afraid of offending their child-perhaps the parent doesnt want to be strict but ends up being weak instead and forgets that the rest of the world has also got to live with the child
e.g.in a very quiet and pathetically weak tone parents say"oh darling mummy says come down from there"
child carrys on as tone does not suggest authority.....
child in shop wails when they see a toy\sweet etc....
parent says "no darling'and proceeds to have long-winded explanation why not.
child wails louder and this progresses til parent relents
child is clearly the boss in the situation and the relationship and you would have to be stupid not to learn that no doesnt mean no at all when your parent says it,cry and you get your way it wont take too long as the parent weakly thinks-"anything for peace"but creating an emerging pattern of undesirable behaviour in their child.
this is grossly unfair for a child in most instances however as they have to go to school etc. and there they get a shock as there the rules tend to be consistent!better to have at least a few rules where you are consistent-eg bed\mealtimes,issues regarding safety such as always holding hands crossing the road,and trying to not give in to pester power especially when they shout at you -stand firm!
children need boundaries- it makes them feel that the world is safe and predictable-they need to feel that you are strong and protective,it isnt healthy for the child to be the stronger one in that relationship,
they dont feel powerless if they are allowed make some of the choices,but in a sensible and safe way,guided by the parent-it doesnt have to be a dictatorship for them to respect the parent.

Answer 8

wimpish parenting means the parents don't parent. The kids never will learn. The kids will never grown up!

Answer 9

I call it "pansy" parenting - parents who give in to their child too often, dont set clear boundaries and pander about them all the time.

I see it regularly in shops and supermarkets and cringe at how they have created a rod for their own back.

Plus, once the child knows how to press the right buttons they push and push all the more.

Answer 10

when u disaplin them, they start crying n u go over straight away hugging n kissing them n telling them not 2 worry, u'r not angry at them etc...u disaplin them u stick 2 it. no matter how much they cry. or u'll find that they'll cry everytime u tell them off cuz they kno they'll get away with it. grow a back bone! they're kids...exactly what r they guno do? cry? give u a head-ache? yes...don't do it now n u'll end up with a full blown brat!