What is the ONE thing...?

Question

You wish someone would have told you about pregnancy/giving birth/being a mother???

What is the one peice of advice you would want to give to a new mom?

Thanks!

Answer 1

It is nothing like you see on t.v. I spent the last 2 months of my pregnancy watching "Bringing Home Baby" and "A Baby Sotry" on TLC and let me tell you... delivery was nothing like that.

On a more "positive" note, no one told me that I was going to fall in love all over again. When I married my husband I was a little sad that I was never going to fall in love again and get those "butterflies" in my stomach, daydream, etc. That all changed once she was born. i look into her eyes and I just melt. I also look at my husband in a totally different way now. I love him for reasons that are totally unromantic now... just seeing him with our little girl.

Answer 2

You will NOT be on cloud nine, all giddy and happy go lucky once the baby arrives. And there is NOTHING wrong with that. What everybody refers to as Post Pardum Depression is *usually* (I know sometimes there's need for medical intervention in severe cases) just the transition from the excitement of a new life in the womb to having a beautiful new person that's depending on you for everything, on top of your body trying to readapt and recover from pregnancy. It's something to be aware of, so you understand your changing feelings. Just be patient with yourself and it will evolve into a deep, satisfying love for the child you have brought into this world. Good luck to you and Blessings

Answer 3

you must prepare yourself for a tired like you have never been tired before. you will be terrified by the amount/color/frequency of the diapers. you will have issues with sex for a variety of reasons, none the least of which is the roller coaster of hormone adjustment that you will go through before/during/after the birth of your child, and while/if you breast feed. your partner will not understand any of your issues, but will hopefully be supportive anyway, and can only try to understand what you actually tell them about your experience (they cannot read your mind, so spit it out).

do not, under any circumstances, blink your eyes - time is about to speed up before you to light speed, and you won't want to miss a minute. no matter how tired, scared, frustrated, sad or freaked out you feel, never forget, this is truly the greatest experience of your life and you must enjoy every moment for the gift that it is. Good Luck on your quest, for you are about to truly become someones Hero.

Answer 4

You do have a bowel movement when you are pushing. And babies are a guessing game if they sleep through the night one time don't get used to it because most likely it won't last. I found that out the hard way, my daughter was sleeping 6-7hrs at night straight home from the hospital and now at 4 months she wakes up 2-3 times a night.

Answer 5

Nothing will ever be the same again...you as an individual no longer matter, everything is centered around this beautiful baby that is a part of you. Your whole life and what you have worked for is nothing next to your baby. You would rather feel a lifetime of time if it meant sparing your child a second of pain.

Answer 6

I wish someone would have told me about all the "fluids" afterwards. In the first weeks postpartum with my first I was bleeding, leaking breastmilk everywhere and having night sweats. I had no idea that the night sweats were possible due to the hormone fluxuations. I would wake up every night SOAKED and have to change clothes because I had either been leaking or sweating.

Answer 7

I know people try and tell moms-to-be that they will love thier baby like they have never loved anyone/anything, but no one can tell you exactly how that feels.
My advice would be: just follow your gut instinct about things such as feeding and what to do/not to do. Each baby is different and they all do things at different times. for example: If you wanna give your baby cereal at 2 months, and he's ready, go for it, because you want to. Don't not just do something because you have 100 people telling you not to.

Answer 8

All of the above, and...babies make weird noises, and do stuff that is NOT in the books, websites, etc. Do as they say in the Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy- "Don't panic!" Trust your instincts, and SLEEP WHENEVER YOU CAN. (Oh, and don't make up your mind that you'll be doing things a certain way or other- the baby will be turning your expectations upside down on you! ;) Good luck, hon! :)

Answer 9

Read alot on the subject and ask alot of questions. Also remember your hormones will be changing and you'll experience alot of different emotions. After baby comes sleep when he/she does. Enjoy every minute with them because they grow up so fast. Make sure you do make some alone time for yourself and husband. But mostly enjoy your little miracle...... Congrats!!!

Answer 10

I would say to any new mom, sleep when your baby sleeps. It makes all of the difference in the world.