Ok i told him im 15 and im turning 16 but im really 14 turning 15 i want to tell him so bad but im afraid cause hell be angry.How do i tell him.
2007-01-05 05:20:53 · 17 answers · asked by outrageousrean 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you have to tell him ASAP.it is not good to start a relationship with lies,cos he will never trust or believe you again.if he loves you really,don't worry,he will be upset for a while,but he will understand you.
2007-01-05 05:25:21 · answer #1 · answered by dra shelley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The big question here is HOW OLD IS HE? Because if he's over the age of 16, & you are younger than 16. He could end up being charged with statuatory rape if you two have had sex. That is a criminal offence by the way.
You have no control over whether or not he gets angry, but you do have control over the things that YOU DO!
By lying about your age, you have put your boyfriends future in jeopardy, & you owe him THE TRUTH!!!
So tell him the truth now one way or the other. If you can't face him yourself, then make a point of telling him in front of your parents, or his. That way he will have to keep his emotions in check, but he HAS TO KNOW NOW, before the sun sets tonight.
Remember, you can't build a relationship on a foundation of lies.
2007-01-05 13:30:32 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did the exact same thing with my current boyfriend. I was 17 turning 18 he thought I was 18 turning 19. The problem was he was 25! I told him the truth of course he was a little mad but he got over it. We've been together 5 years now. Just try it and see what happens, if he gets really mad then he is a butthead to begin with and you don't need him.
2007-01-05 13:29:33 · answer #3 · answered by DollieDee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down and explain that you made the wrong decision about something and you want to clear the air because you really like him and it is unlike you to lie or deceive. Calmly tell him that in your apprehension you gave him the wrong age, afraid that he would disapprove. Tell him you understand that he is probably upset and angry but that you wanted to do the right thing and that you hope he takes your honesty and caring into consideration. Allow him to be upset, and do not get angry back or make excuses. Recognize that he may not want to date you anymore-give him space if he needs it. Reassure him that you do like him and you were honest because you did not want to start your relationship off on the wrong foot by being deceitful. This should work, but if it does just be strong and try not to lie again in the future ;)
2007-01-05 13:29:28 · answer #4 · answered by Samanamantha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, you are just a little kid, and this site is for adults. second off, Why did you lie anyways.... you dug a big hole, and now you may risk losing everything. Tell him the truth, because if he finds out from some one else, he will really be mad at you, Just tell him that you lied about your age because you really liked him, and you thought age was a big thing to him, an if he really cares about you, he will understand, he may be angry that you lied, but he will forgive you. And hope you learned your lesson, quit lieing about the stupid stuff, or how about quit lieing all together!!
Good luck, and remember if you lose him because of your dumb lie, ther is no one to blame but your self.
2007-01-05 13:26:02 · answer #5 · answered by tuffchevy86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your true age is not a big trouble for him then I think its alright. And the best way to confess about your lie is to find out if he has told you anything that is not true. First, try to investigate if he told you anything that is not true, then let him confess and then tell about your lie, and of course say sorry. And if he has never told you a lie then, you've done a great mistake, and you should tell him the truth as soon as possible and say sorry.
2007-01-05 13:26:36 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At that age he will find out pretty quickly how old you really are, if your in the UK for example when you don't leave school might be a big giveaway, I would tell him but explain that the reason you lied was because you didn't want to lose him, it might help to soften the blow by boosting his ego a little, if he likes you he wont turn away from you
2007-01-05 13:24:22 · answer #7 · answered by laughinggiraffe2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have mutual friends, its possible he already knows and hasn't said anything or doesn't mind. If it is really bothering you. Just tell him your real age and why you did it. It isn't such a big deal. Your still both close in age, and if you've been together awhile I'm sure he'll have noticed your maturity.
2007-01-05 13:24:45 · answer #8 · answered by Kurius_Kitten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, he won't be angry. This guy who knew I was 22 told me that he was 20, about to turn 21. Turns out he was 19 about to turn 20. He just didn't want me to blow him off in case he thought that I would think he was too young for me. Now, we are married. :)
2007-01-05 13:24:12 · answer #9 · answered by His Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first tell him how you really feel about him.than tell him you have something to say please not to get mad at you.
tell him when you first saw him you were so please to find out he feel the same way about you but when he told you his age you just do know you lie about your age cause maybe if you tell him the true you both wouldnt be together now and your sorry and kiss him.
try it and tell me if it works if he really like you he will forgive you.
2007-01-05 13:26:39 · answer #10 · answered by diana e 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋