It's been 6 months my girlfriend told me that she was lesbian and didn't want to be with me anymore even though she still loved me. I was desperately in love with her and then I decided to do something that maybe no other guy would ever do for a girl: I subjected myself to a surgery in Africa to change my sex and turn myself into a girl so she woud have no reason to leave me. Last month the whole process was completely done and I hadn't told her anything yet because I wanted to surprise her. However, when she saw me she said that all I did was for nothing because she doens't want to stay with me even after all I've done for her. She said she would never ask me to do such a thing and that I was looking like a monster for her. Now I just don't know what to do. I like girls and I don't know if I will ever find another girl who accepts me the way that I look now. The doctor told me the surgery is unreversable.
2007-01-05 05:14:54 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
bullsh*t
2007-01-05 05:16:58 · answer #1 · answered by wineboy 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I don't know where to begin.... I'm sorry to hear that you GF doesn't want to be with you. I'm also sorry that you went completely out of your way to give her something you "assume" she wanted.
I really do think you made a horrible mistake. It extremely generous but selfish. I say that because like you said she had no idea and she would have never asked you to do such a thing. Plus you also did this because it was a reason for her to never leave you.
You should have thought about all the possible outcome's of having a sex change and how that could affect the relation. did you ever get counseling while going through this processes. I'm assuming you didn't. Because I don't think any professional would advise you to do such a thing.
Since the sex change is irreversible there isn't much of an option for you.
I would suggested changing you sexual preference or cross dressing to make up for the operation but I would suggest counseling. I think now is the prefect time to have someone help you understand and deal with the decision you've made.
I think your GF will ever come to terms with what you've done and I don't think she'll ever see you as a normal person.
I suggest you let her move on and you do as well. I know its easier sad that done but you can't force what you have for her, on her because she's already express her feelings toward you change.
Once again I'm sorry! I hope all works out for you and please don't beat yourself up over what you did. Try to look at yourself in another light.
I'm sure there's some girls who are into guy that have V. I'm not try to make a joke out of the situation but I truly think there are girls out there who are into that.
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2007-01-05 05:32:41 · answer #2 · answered by Jackie C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sad situation and I sympathise but you must be very easily led to undertake such a major act in order to please someone else, I'm afraid you're stuck as you are.
I do know of websites where you could maybe find someone who is looking for a transsexual woman but you should really try to sort out why you were so easily led into such drastic action in the first place.
2007-01-05 05:20:27 · answer #3 · answered by Dark Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope this is a wind up.
If not then poor you!! I don't know anyone who would do that for someone else. I would try another doctor because I have heard of such surgery being reversible.
If you are going to take such a immense step you need to be doing it for you, not for anyone else - no matter how much you love them.
2007-01-05 05:18:58 · answer #4 · answered by nettyone2003 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How many times have you asked this question before because I remember answering it a good 50 times before. Get a grip & move on, she was not a lesbian to start off with; she just wanted an excuse to get rid of you & you thought you turning into one will help the situation but guess what “ YOU DID NOT”. You put this question back up here & I will report you to yahoo.
2007-01-05 06:15:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have told you to eat some Sh*t but you are already doing this in another question...
So i think you should stick a carrot up ur as*s.. Oh wait... You are doing this as well in another question...
Geeze... The only thing left for you to do is to replant your little manhood on your forhead and pretend to be a TV antena... You wont have any reception with your size but still better than nothing...
Get a life....
2007-01-09 02:15:51 · answer #6 · answered by kaustikos1981 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm soooo sorry dude...I can't imagine how you must feel...but one thing I've learned is you can sacrifice to a point but after that you have to realize that someone will love the person you are inside and the person you are always sacrificing for doesn't...
I think now you have to be lesbian...there are plenty of those around so have fun with it and make the best of it...
2007-01-05 05:22:02 · answer #7 · answered by Dave B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my word....that is extreme. theres not much point saying you should have done this or that because its too late. someone out there will love you the way you are now, its just a case of finding them. maybe you could join a group of people who have been through the same op and make some new friends. increase your social circle with people who understand. that may help xxx
2007-01-05 05:19:55 · answer #8 · answered by hana woo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
such a hoax. First of all who gets a sex change done in Africa. I dont even need a second of all.
2007-01-05 05:19:53 · answer #9 · answered by eskrilla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a pretty bloody bad liar aren't you? If that was even half true you would know the answers to those questions already.
(By the way, what happened about the carrot in the end? I presume its not as far up you **** as your intelligence seems to be right now)
2007-01-07 02:09:53 · answer #10 · answered by Philippa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i guess you'll have to learn to live as women and that it's the kind of thing you do for your self not because you love some one.
Look on the bright side you can now wear all the beautiful clothes, Get some one who'll love for yourself, and believe me there are women or men they'll love as you are now.
2007-01-06 11:11:27 · answer #11 · answered by Anne-Marie L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋