What do I do?

Question

my sister is 16 and shes pregnant. She came to me first for advice. She has not told are parents yet??? What do I say to her, im really upset. She has no boyfriend, and not sure of the father??? Please help. I want to be there for her so what do I say?

Answer 1

"Aunt" Meggie, I think you need to convince her to talk to your parents.

Answer 2

You both should talk your parents. Go with her and be that shoulder and hand to hold. I wouldn't suggest abortion like the above person, just my opinion. if she doesn't want the baby and the family isn't supportive of her keeping the baby, then maybe adoption is the better option. i gave my son up for adoption but was fortunate enough to keep him in the family...my aunt and uncle adopted him. Hope this helps..

btw...there isn't much you can say to make her feel better..she has already crossed the line into adulthood. just make sure you are there for her and get her on the pill after she has the baby or whatever your family decides.

Answer 3

First take a deep breath and relax a little bit. Talk to your sister and reassure her that everything will work out like it's sappose to. Volunteer to go with her when she tells your parents as moral support and just be there for her and offer her what confort you can. Don't make any hasty decisions. Your sister has many options for what to do with the child she can raise it herself, get an abotrion, or adoption. If your sister chooses adoption she could choose the adoptive parents.
Good luck!!

Answer 4

Support her, she needs you now more than ever. My sister came to me at 15 after going to a frat party with friends and drinking and sleeping with someone that she did not know. I was very disappointed,but she is my sister and I love her very much. As much as I was upset, she was scared and felt very alone. % yrs later, I would not know what to do without my niece, she is one of the lights of my life. You may not be happy with the situation, but stand by her and help her figure out what is the best course of action for her and this baby. Your parents will no doubt be upset, but we love our children unconditionally and along with good times come some bad.
It is her responsibility to tell your parents as it is her who is pregnant, but you can be there to listen to her fears and concerns and help her make good decisions. If you would like to talk to me further, please e-mail me. I wish your sister lots of luck and the strength to see this through. There are many options available to her and she should go to Planned Parenthood or an OB/GYN to help her decide what is best for her situation. I will pray for you both.

Answer 5

Put your arm around her shoulder, & take her to your perents, & stay with her while she tells them what's going on.

The best advice you can give to a girl who is 16, & pregnant is to tell her to turn to her entire family for their help, & support.

You know she has to do it sometime, & the longer she delays the inevitable the longer she will suffer from the fear. But the truth is, the worst part has already happened, (her getting pregnant). So let your parents cry, yell, & scream all they want because nothings going to change until everybody calms down & starts to form a solid plan of action, & I believe your parents are the best place to start.

May God Bless you all!

Answer 6

HOW WOULD UR PARENTS REACT TO SUTTIN LIKE THIS? DO U THINK ABORTION IS THE ONLY OPTION IN THEIR EYES? DOES SHE WANT TO KEEP THE BABY? LET HER KNOW IT IS HER DECISION, HER BODY. JUST LET HER KNOW THAT NO MATTER WHAT U LOVE HER AND SUPPORT WHATEVER DECISION SHE MAKES. TRY NOT TO JUDGE HER. SHE FEELS BAD ENOUGH AND SCARED. ENCOURAGE HER TO FINISH SCHOOL. WITHOUT AN EDUCATION YOU HAVE NOTHING TO START UR LIFE OFF WITH. LET HER KNOW TOO THAT THERE ARE MANY GIRLS OUT THERE THAT GET PREGNANT YOUNG. IF SHE FEELS COMFORTABLE HAVE EACH OF THE BOYS SHE HAS BEEN WITH TESTED. NONE OF THIS WILL BE EASY NOR CAN U FIND AN EASY WAY OUT OF IT. I HAVE EXPERIENCED BOTH SIDES OF THIS. I WAS PREGNANT WHEN I WAS 17 AND HAD IT. I ALSO HAD AN ABORTION 1 DAY AFTER MY BDAY 2YRS. LATER. BOTH ARE HARD DECISIONS BUT THEY ARE HER'S TO MAKE. MY DAUGHTER CHANGED MY LIFE AND HELPED ME GROW UP. SHE IS THE BEST THING THAT EVER HAPPENED TO ME. BUT I WILL ALSO NEVER FORGET THE ABORTION I HAD. THAT WAS THE MOST DIFFICULT THING I HAVE EVER HAD TO DECIDE. BUT I KNEW I COULDN'T TAKE CARE OF TWO KIDS AND GIVE THEM BOTH THE BEST LIFE I COULD. I WOULDN'T CHANGE MY DECISIONS BUT I WISH I WAS OLDER WHEN THEY CAME AROUND. TELL HER TO KEEP HER HEAD UP AND SOME HOW EVERYTHING WILL WORK ITSELF OUT. REMEMBER TO JUST BE THERE TO LISTEN TOO. SOMETIMES SHE MAY ONLY WANT U TO LISTEN!

Answer 7

I know it's tough, but you gotta get your parents involved. They may be upset or dissapointed at first, but they are your parents and they love you and your sister. Most likely, it will be better in the long run.

Answer 8

Just be there for her to talk to. If she wants someone to be with her when she tells your parents, be there to do that. If you are supportive and help her where you can, she will appreciate it and you will be able to keep a good relationship with her and be involved in her baby's life.
If you alienate her & judge her, she will resent you and you both will regret it because your relationship will suffer.

Good luck!

Answer 9

Give her the best advice you can:

"Sis, I love you, but you have a problem that is way outside of what I can help you with. You really need to talk to mom and dad about this. I know that they will be mad and disappointed with you at first, but they love you too and they will do everything they can to help you ... but you have to talk to them."

Answer 10

Tell her that she needs to let your parents know. She's too young to deal with something like this on her own. It's the only way.

Answer 11

there is much you can say. i was 17 and pregant and no father for the baby. you just need to help her in all you can this is going to be the hardest thing she will ever have to tell your parents. just be there for her that is all you can do