Help In My Love Life?

Question

Im a 19 year old girl, and i noticed im into younger guys. Every older guy i been into has a girl or arent interested in me. Also the ones that go after me look too old for me. I get upset because Im a very playful sweet girl. I watch Anime and draw almost everyday. I know how to cook and clean. But to my parents im too childish @ times. Now im here looking for a older guy but the ones that are here, arent for me...what to do?

Answer 1

pls dont b disappointed of nt gettin a bf ryt now. to find out the ryt person, u shud work on developing ur self esteem. firstly develop ur skills. then go out n meet old frens , make new ones as well. do more socialising. u will then discover tht ther r lots of ppl who u lyk and will have the privelege of choosing from many suitors:)

Answer 2

Listen, you sound nice. You are interested in younger guys because you are scared to be with people your own age. Frankly, you are not ready to date. You should take some time like 6 months to a year and work on yourself. Ask yourself why are you afraid to be with people your own age, why don't people your age relate to you? what else scares you? Did something happen to you? Perhaps talking to someone you trust would be a good thing. Do you have someone in your family you can have and open conversation with? If not, perhaps a school counselor or family friend. In any case, you have so much time, you don't need a relationship until things are right with you. It's ok to be alone. You'll learn lots of valuable skills you can use the rest of your life.

Good luck.

Answer 3

At 19 you have no worries so just relax. Once you are about 25 you'll find hoards of well established men that are ready to settle down and treat you right. And those 30+ year olds with big paychecks won't even seem old to you anymore. And by that time it's easy to weed out the losers. You likely like the younger guys because your mindset is still back there. You'll grow out of that.

Answer 4

I couldn't tell you why you are attracted to younger guys or end up hooking up with younger guys. Some people will say you are attracted to what closest resembles yourself on some level. Some people would say you are attracted to certain things which you have grown accustomed to growing up. For example I had a friend who happened to be female and she had this strange attraction to hairy chests on guys, older guys. I thought that she had a few loose wires in her head or something. Than I happened across a photo album of her family as she was growing up. Her father was a big burly man with a big hairy chest, and in almost all the pictures of her and her father growing up she was asleep on his bare hairy chest and she looked very peacefull and happy. See the connection? There could be a connection that you find easier to make with these younger guys than with older guys. For example myself, I enjoy the company of people older than me...at least by 10 years and my wife is about 7 years older than me. The reason for this is 1 of 2 things, I have a few loose wires or it's because growing up my mother brought me with her everywhere. Parties, friends houses, any social event she went to with other adults. So growing up about 90% of all my social contact outside of school was with people around 20 years older than myself. So at 12 years old I was more comfortable holding a conversation with someone 30 years of age than with someone my own age. I didn't know that or understand that for quite some time. I just one day noticed all my friends were 26 - 30 when I was 16. All my girlfriends had been roughly 7 years older than me. What I had to do was ask myself the same question you are asking on Yahoo right now and really sit down and think about why I could hold a conversation with someone 10-30 years older than me about any topic but I couldn't figure out how to relate with someone my own age. Once I figured that out and knew what was driving me that way I was more prepared to overcome that hurdle. You have a lot of work to do...I would suggest being alone for a while to figure out how to "adjust" yourself before you keep trying and trying and tryin...if you just keep trying and trying and trying, you are just spinning your wheels without getting anywhere. Good luck to you

Answer 5

we,ll your young the one that I think you should do is
take time to love you as women were always in a rush to
love a man and not even know actually what we are looking for
or what to put up with so like you set your own guideline and
learn to just develop friendships and various relationship with
people in general, you got life ahead of you there is no rush
i wish someone would have told me, but then again we think
we know it all, until so one tells us the truth, if you go school
focus on that, travel, sightseeing, and just plain ol, enjoy yourself
trust me men are not endanger species they will be there when
you are ready.

Answer 6

you need to be honest with yourself as to why you choose younger guys. That's not a bad thing as long as it's not illegal and your not talking about a lot younger than you. I always liked older men, but I'm with someone who is only 2 years older than me. I realized i just wanted someone that looked mature, not that they had to be older. Don't look at age so much but someone that you are compatible with, you may be surprised at who you find.

Answer 7

Relax. You are only 19 now. You still have many chances to get a good guy. Be patient and you will get a good guy, just have to wait when the time comes.

Answer 8

Look my way before you end up on some jerry springer show!

Answer 9

do look for them wait and they will come to do u believe in god if so pray on it tell him what u want everyday and in time u will get what u want

Answer 10

go fo any guy u like, or just let them go after u. it'll work out sooner or later.