How would you react if your spouse suddenly converted to a religion you didn't agree with?

Question

Let me clarify, they are not trying to convert you. They've just made a personal decision to change beliefs.

Answer 1

I think that it is funny that everyone automatically assumes that their partner would be "forcing" their decision on them (A ss-u-me.. break it down). Personal beliefs are just that.. personal. I would have no problem with it what so ever, because I am not so righteous and high and mighty that I could allow myself to feel alienated from my own husband because of his religious beliefs. If you are married you have made a commitment for life and letting something like that get in the way of your marriage would be both childish and selfish. In the event that they DID actually try to force their religious beliefs on me and I did not agree with them, I would politely decline (after they have fully explained of course) and tell them that I fully support them in their decision, but it isn't for me.

For all of the Christians who responded so negatively, I think that it is very unchristian for you to judge your spouse's decision (isn't that "God's" responsibility?). It takes two people for a marriage to work and you will not always agree on everything. The beautiful thing about life and human nature is that we are all different.. this is not a bad thing. Besides, if they were exactly like you, you may as well have married yourself!

Answer 2

It would depend on how those beliefs affected the relationship and our interaction.

If he suddenly converted to a faith that said you could only have sex once a week in the missionary position with the lights off whether you liked it or not, because God thought any other way was "dirty", then yeah, there'd be an issue, because that not only affects him, it affects me.

If we had to stop going places or doing things or being friends with certain people, then it would be a problem.

If it was a religion where he couldn't eat pork or other certain foods, then while it would make shopping more difficult, it's no big deal - so long as the same restriction wasn't being put on me.

Answer 3

Well I wouldn't, react that is. It was not religion that made you fall in love right? Just because one chooses to change religions does not mean you have too. But if you are being forced to convert then walk away. Religion does not make a person who they are, The heart does.

Answer 4

Well, If I was married to a Christian, and he changed his mind and became Buddhist or something else, I would have to stay with him, because the bible states that if an unbelieving spouse still wants to live with a believing spouse, then divorce would not be considered. However, I do know that it would indeed put a big gap in the marriage, because God is the center of my life, and will be the center of my marriage. Without my husband feeling the same, we cannot be on the same page, and it would create problems.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Well it would be a big problem. First of all, if it changed him, he wouldnt be the person I fell in love with. Secondly there would now be arguments on how to raise the kids. I once dated a guy who was a different religion than me, and it caused to much heart ache in the end. It would be even worse to be married to the guy, becuase its much harder to walk away. You HAVE to have the same beliefs in a relationship.

Answer 7

If you mean a christian denomination we would have a long discussion as to why !

If he rejected Christ for a complete other religion then I would leave!
for my faith tells me

14. Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?
15. What harmony is there between Christ and Belial ? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever?
16. What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said: "I will live with them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be my people."
17. "Therefore come out from them and be separate, says the Lord. Touch no unclean thing, and I will receive you."

Answer 8

I would smile and wait out the three months that it would probably last. If it lasted past that point then I would begin to worry. I would do a lot of research. When all else had failed I would let his Mom brain wash him back to normal.

Answer 9

If you're marriage is at the point that you are surprised that your spouse has suddenly become lets say a Jainist, then your marriage has much deeper issues than religion.

Answer 10

I would be ashamed.

People normally only believe in a religion either because they've been brainwashed since childhood, or because of some deep trauma.

If she turns to any religion, it means I haven't been able to support her enough through such a trauma.

(Not that I have a spouse...)