Been together for 3 months now. I let him move in the 2nd week. He works but i still make more money than him monthly. i pay the rent. I buy the food. I have even bought clothes for him. I make sure he always has something in his stomach everynight and isn't hungry, always has carfare. I swear if yall knew me yall would love me. I'd give you the shirt off my back. If i have a dollar i'd give you 65 cents and keep the 35. I do my best not to judge anyone but i know what i am, who i am and what i am worth. I'm too good of a women to be in denial. I know what i want and thats a guy to share my life with not run my life or lie to me. with that being said i have to let you guys know i'm totally loyal to him. (besides my vibrator hehe)
He has been searching through pics on myspace while with me talking dirty with chics through email. He doesn't know that i know but i have read his email because i have put spy system on my comp.
Do you think he'll cheat eventually, Should i dump him?
2007-01-05 05:04:06 · 24 answers · asked by Fine L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Man am i in denial. dammit i wanted this to work. Thanks all.
2007-01-05 05:10:15 · update #1
It is possible that he will cheat, even though I like to flirt online and I am attached. She is aware and I would never cheat.
Now, take your shirt off your back and show me your rack...
2007-01-05 05:06:45 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Smooth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You´re too nice to him he knows that youll always be there and you´ll always do anything for him. Just tell him how you feel and let him know that you´d feel far more comfortable if you had his password. If he really loved you he´d give it to you and if he refuses he better have a good excuse and if he doesnt then tell him you knew what he was doing all along. I´d never do that if I was in a relationship. You never know what he might do! he might need a push, you know, make him long for hte time you gave him everything, make him try and get you on your fullest, like now, and if he doesnt and just leaves, then he definatley was a waste of time since he only wanted you for the care, youre like a maid to him, there for eveyrthing he wants and its free and guess what sex included, and if not then that should answer your question on why hes doing what hes doing and how to stop it!
2007-01-05 05:12:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u immediately ask a guy to move in with you after just meeting him for less then 3 months. And treat him like a child feeding him and paying for his bills.. Obviously he has no respect for you at all. He is using you big time and you are allowing it to happen to you. You sound so needy that you would pay to get some love(which in most cases is not real ) Hey you need to value yourself and stop selling your self cheap if u need a man to treat you like a woman. I would say dump his sorry *** . And you are better of with your Vibrator.
2007-01-05 05:15:23 · answer #3 · answered by julia1975 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it. See what the deal is.
Stop doing everything for him and see how he reacts then. Make him, pay the rent, buy sum food & buy you some clothes and feed you & etc. See how long he stays around then. If he doesnt, then you know he wuz just using you for whatever he could get out of you. But if he straightens up & starts to do better & do things for himself & help you out with things, then ya'll can work on the dirty emails that he sends.
2007-01-05 05:13:30 · answer #4 · answered by americangurl_28 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear,
I have to be honest here.
Your problem is that as you described, you´re too good. He thinks that he can do anything and u´ll never leave him and u´ll always be loyal, can you see?
He moved in the first month, you pay the bills and he chats on my space???????
If you don´t show this man who´s the boss here, you´ll have a man who´ll cheat you and won´t care to be nice, afterall you will never do anything to hurt him.
WAKE UUUUUUUUUP!!!!
2007-01-05 05:09:02 · answer #5 · answered by Lucianna_ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These people are insensitive idiots. It's easy for them to say Kick him to the curb, etc- they don't have to deal with the reality, and most of them giving advice are probably 11 years old.
You would probably resent him less if he started paying his half. I really don't think talking to women dirty online is good- it's not EXACTLY cheating, though. I would tell him to grow up, stop putting his bait out there, and say if he keeps doing that, it will show you that he is not ready for an adult relationship.
If you can afford it, how about couple's counseling before you do what these yahoo idiots say kick him out right now, lady doormat, etc- don't ask people here, they are fools!
2007-01-05 05:21:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think that you should confront him about it. You should be honest with him, if you expect him to be honest with you. Maybe he just needs an outlet, but maybe he's going to cheat. There's no hard and fast answer, but if the two of you communicate, that's the only way you're going to get anything positive accomplished for either of you.
2007-01-05 05:06:20 · answer #7 · answered by Rice 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, dump him!
It is obvious that he is not interested in a long term relationship with you, and it sounds like he is taking serious advantage of your generousity. There is no need to tell him what you have discovered; just tell him it is time for him to move out!
2007-01-05 05:10:57 · answer #8 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are already spying on him and you don't trust him. Yes he will cheat, because he feels you have the better job and he need to balance the books inwardly, to make himself feel less emasculated.
He will tell you he won't cheat, but he is lying!
2007-01-05 05:07:07 · answer #9 · answered by Bill A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should move on and go without a BF for a long time, you need to establish yourself before you can be in a healthy relationship.
2007-01-05 05:06:44 · answer #10 · answered by ima_averagejoe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋