My guy is under tremendous pressure right now over in Iraq. During a conversation that we had he said the only thing he wants when he calls is to know that, 'I'm happy safe, in good health, & not stressed out.' (He said this because he doesn't want me to stress about what he's doing, so he won't tell me about what's going on over there when I asked him.)
Well in the last week, my mom had as stroke (We won't know anything until 3-6 months) And I got into a car crash and totaled my car, I'm bit bang up but okay. I don't want to stress him out but part of me feels like he should know, he thinks of my mom as his own even calls her mom. Would he be very angry/hurt/upset if I didn't tell him this stuff until he gets home in about 8 months? I’d like to wait until then, he has enough stuff to worry about. But what do you guys think?
2007-01-05 05:02:42 · 6 answers · asked by Marie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That is a tough call. I understand that you are worried and speaking from the experience my sister had when her husband was there, I understand you dint want to add any stress. I may tell him that your mom had a stroke , but that as of right now, he need not worry as she is coming around just fine. I think I would not tell him about the accident as you are doing fine and he will really be worried about you. I will keep you both in my prayers. I know what a tough time this is for you. May you both be safe and may he return home soon, unharmed. God Bless!
2007-01-05 05:08:12 · answer #1 · answered by nellyann1969 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait to tell him. It's like you said he has enough to deal with being in Iraq. His mind has to be on what is going on in front of him and not what's going on at home. He may be a little upset with you, but that's a small price to pay considering his safety is at stake. Hope everything works out for you and I will say a prayer for you, your mom and your boyfriend. Good luck and God bless!!!
2007-01-05 05:08:28 · answer #2 · answered by latingirl0527 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really does think of your mom as his own mom, then he will want to know about something as serious as a stroke. What he needs from you I think is for you to let him know that although bad things happen, you are handling everything well on your own while he's away and don't need him by your side just now to be okay.
2007-01-05 05:10:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is just my opionion, but I would say wait until he gets home unless it is serious. If he is over there thinking about what is going on at home, he will be distracted. Which could put him in harms way. It doesn't make you a liar. When he gets home and gets adjusted, let him know what has happened. Or you could write a daily blog and let him read it when he gets home. He would love to know you thought about him everyday.
2007-01-05 05:07:33 · answer #4 · answered by ericamissamerica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might as well tell him. What could be worsre than being in Iraq?
2007-01-05 05:17:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him so that he won;t come home to a suprise and be even madder at you for not telling him whats going on.
2007-01-05 05:06:08 · answer #6 · answered by Mz.Tweety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋