I can't orgasm?

Question

I have been having sex for about a year and a half with the same person and I can't come.

Answer 1

If you're a woman, join the club.
If you're a man.................... ya, you should get that checked out.

Answer 2

There are several answers:

a. Do you feel stressed out or uncomfortable when you have sex? Is your mind far away? Try and set the mood better, be romantic and intimate without having sex for a few nights, and then have sex a few days later. Build an environment you are comfortable in.

b. Have you ever pleasured yourself? Maybe you should. OR maybe you and your partner can do that together. If you don't know what you like, then how can your partner know what you like.

c. Maybe its the partner? Are you happy with your partner? Are you unsure of the relationship? Have you talked to your partner about all this?

Good luck with all of it! remember- practice makes perfect haha!

Answer 3

Assuming you are female, that's not uncommon at all. Females on this site who tell you they "always" orgasm or that it's so "easy" to orgasm are liars.

It's a bit more difficult than you would think, and what turns one woman on may not have any affect at all on another woman. But it is nothing you have to see a doctor for. And it does not mean that either you or your lover are doing anything wrong.

The key is to first know your body and what you like. So you need to give yourself the first orgasm. Have fun ;-)

Answer 4

I am 44 and have the same problem. Whether your partner doesn't know that much about a woman's body, or he is just too selfish and thinking of his own desire... You have to tell him the truth... let him try it with petting for a while... Sometimes its mentally, sometimes it could be also pysically... You are not the only one, but nobody can deny, that it is really frustrating sometime.
I hope it will work out for you very soon.

Answer 5

Experiencing an orgasm takes some patience and focused effort on your partner as much as it is with you. It isn't uncommon that people engage in sex but don't reach their orgasms. So, don't beat yourself up on that.

If you'd like to discuss more about what brings about greater orgasms, feel free to IM/email me. We can talk.

Answer 6

Make sure to have enough 4 play, your body should be wanting him to be inside you thats when you've had enough and there is nothing wrong with helping yourself come. And by this time you must be dreading to have sex because you can't come picture yourself coming (if you still remember that feeling LOL) and MAKE SURE THERES 4PLAY!!

Answer 7

I truly believe that you have to be Incredibly comfortalbe with youself, your body, and your sexuality. If you feel the slightest bit uncomfortable, or uneasy during lovemaking it will be that much harder to climax. This is assuming you are a female. I agree with most...once you can do it to yourself, you will know how to, and be able to show your partner what to do to get the job done. Good luck!

Answer 8

Most women don't, at least during sex. I'm sure you're going to hear differently, but it's not true. Now come on with all the thumbs down.

Answer 9

DATE a doctor. (you wont an orgasm but he will get you into nice places)

have you ever had sex with another guy??

Answer 10

Hmmm I have never had that problem. But first I would start with self discovery. How can someone else please you, if you don't know what you like. Once you find out what you like, try to incorporate that into your relationship. Also many woman enjoy clitoral stimulation with penatration. Try that during sex, it will probably work for you. And yes for guys who didn't know that, yes women like it. ::smile::

Answer 11

maybe you should try different positions and etc. or also wait 1 or 2 days w/o sex and do it the next day and maybe that will help