My boyfriend hasn't been able to talk to me. At first I thought it was because he was out of town but he has come back since then and he is still not talking. I've called his cell phone, numerous times, but he never picks up. And when he does pick up he's busy and can't talk but says he'll call me back later and never does. He wasn't answering my calls yesterday, so I called him using one of his friends phones and he picked up, but once again said he had to go. He finally sent me a message online about two days ago saying:
but i have a reason. actually a few. but i'm sorry we haven't talked. its effecting me, and it sucks, but, idk. sorry this isn't very explanatory, but yeah. not sure if i'll be on tomorow, we'll see
and btw, i may delete my myspace, not because of you at all, its really dealing with me, but yeah
love you, really i do [end]
And hasn't talked to me since then.
I don't know what to do.
2007-01-05 04:58:00 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He hasn't given me any reason at all why he is unable to talk to me. If he wanted space he could have told me. I can't think of any reason why he would be acting like this. Hes always been sweet before and never doen anything like this. We've been together for almost 4 months now. He won't talk to me. At all. He won't pick up his phone and he won't return my calls.
2007-01-05 04:58:29 · update #1
Oh, and would it be a bad idea to keep calling him?
2007-01-05 04:59:04 · update #2
I've been in the EXACT same situation. Ok, tell me if I'm right... Does he say he's busy but you feel he just doesnt want to talk? Do you feel he's getting annoyed by all your calls? My ex broke up with me because I called him too much, and he NEVER called me. Maybe you need a short break. He may say he still loves you, but those are the exact words my ex said to me... he was totally lying though. Save your relationship before it ends is ALL I have to say.you need to be careful though... if you take a break thats too long, he may think you're avoiding him and break up with you. Thats what I was afraid of, so I continued calling him to the point where not only he got annoyed, but so did his parents. So be careful! I wish you all the luck.
2007-01-05 05:06:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IGNORE him. Its the best advice you´ll ever get. If he wants you he will chase you, like this he will be bored of you always following him. If he doesnt respond in a month at the maximum then tell him the following:
You know I have been patient with your busy schedule and since you can't find time for me I think you need to find someone else that can handle your busy schedule. Sorry but I have been waiting for too long and I can’t have a relationship like this!
2007-01-05 05:34:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok it sounds like he is trying to breakup with you , sorry girl but it does. stop waiting on that phone call he dont deserve you. he is just a sorry SOB that is to scared to tell you that he wants to call it quits. call up your girlfriends an go out , let him know you aint waiting on him no more if he dont have time for you then you will find someone that does! be strong an yes stop calling him. who knows if you just stop calling he might actually stop an think hey i might of just lost the best thing i ever had. he knows your still there so try not calling him or anything see what happens either way you can lose nothing ,
2007-01-05 05:07:43 · answer #3 · answered by " Dixieland Delight " 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes. Don't call him for sure. As far as he knows, you should be happily doing things with other girls and having a great time. It would be nice if he'd talk to you and explain why he's backing off, but if he doesn't want you, believe me, you don't want him. Also, if you chase him, he'll just keep running away. You deserve someone who's crazy about you.
I wish you could come over to my house and we could make cookies and talk about boys and I'd tell you about some of the yahoos (you should excuse the expression) I've dated. "Men are like buses; if you miss one, another one will be along in 15 minutes."
2007-01-05 05:08:33 · answer #4 · answered by rcpeabody1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would appear that he's 'flaked-off' from you. It happens. Not a whole lot you can do about it except to leave him alone--totally.
That sort of thing happens all the time--you have no idea what occured and you don't have any clue how to get back. And if you ask them to talk about it they won't or you'll get the "you won't understand" excuse.
Or he's found someone else and he's decided to cowardly ignore you.
2007-01-05 05:31:11 · answer #5 · answered by Mr_B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW... well, look, he's saying he loves you, that he really does... What it seems to me...it happened something while he was out of town... i think that he needs your support right now. You need to make him now that you're there for him. Send him a text message or a e message online, and tell him you're there and whatever happened while he was gone, you may help him...tell him that, after all, you're his friend, and you love him, and it's killing you not to know anything about him
2007-01-05 05:10:15 · answer #6 · answered by Highway star 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to break up, move on, stop callilng him and stop calling him your boyfriend. It's over and either you accept that or you move on into the Hurtin' Space where you won't let go and you get really emotionally shattered.
2007-01-05 05:02:52 · answer #7 · answered by RangerEsq 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop calling. This guy has broken up with you, in the worst kind of way. And he doesn't love you - seriously, he doesn't return your calls/text messages/whatever and breaks up with you over an e-mail. AN E-MAIL. That's so low.
2007-01-05 05:32:02 · answer #8 · answered by Chloe 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no it wouldnt be a bad idea to keep calling him. unless he told you he wants to be left alone, youre his gf and u have a right not to be kept in the dark.
catch him in person instead of on the phone etc where he can hang up on you. ask him to tell you whats wrong and tell him youre ready to help if he needs it. tell him he OWES you an explanation. if he still doesnt, he's either got an evil twin or he's cheating on you.
2007-01-05 05:03:00 · answer #9 · answered by dumb.doll 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the best thin is 2 giv him som time 2 think out wutevers botherin him and som space. but let him know its hurtin u as well. then he might reconsider talkin 2 u and maybe both of u can figure things out.
2007-01-05 05:04:36 · answer #10 · answered by herimos 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋