we met each other in spain...after that we became very close friends.....i startted liking him and i used to think it was reciprocal..i waited because i thought he is shy or i make him feel not comfortable...but nothing he stays close to me but he does not want even to touch me..and he knows how much i like him...i don't know if it is relevant but it's not bout physical appearance because i know that i can get more good looking guy than him......
2007-01-05 04:53:15 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Did it ever occur to you that maybe he is not attracted to you that way?
2007-01-05 04:56:07 · answer #1 · answered by Jimmy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I assume that you are saying he doesn't want to be physical with you, (hugging, kissing, sex, etc). If he is attracted to you, then there is no reason he wouldn't want to be intimate with you. So he either isn't attracted to you or he can't be intimate with you. There could be a lot of different reasons why either one may be the cause. Maybe he has a girlfriend/boyfriend, maybe he isn't physically or emotionally capable, maybe your not his type, maybe he's playing games, etc.
The best way to test the waters and see if a guy really cares for you is to use the "L" word. Say "I love you" to him, privately and with meaning, and see what his response is. He'll either say it back, in which case you can talk to him about why he doesn't get more physical, or he won't and you can move on to find someone worthy of your affections.
Keep in mind that he may just like you as a friend. If so, nothing you will do can change that. Trying to change it will just ruin your friendship.
2007-01-05 13:20:44 · answer #2 · answered by Dhorlo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that you have a different expectation from the relationship than he does. Men require things to be spelled out for them in very clear ways. I once heard a guy on TV explain it this way, & I think it is quite true. "Women need to explain their expectations to their men by placing the dots very close together, & then connecting the dots with a big, bold, red line."
Your guy knows how YOU feel about him, but has he ever articulated exactly how HE feels about you?
You may never find out how he feels about you, or if he wants to get serious unless you sit down together & talk so the both of you can reach an understanding.
Best of Luck to you!
2007-01-05 13:06:48 · answer #3 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a man, but I would ask, why are you putting yourself through this? If he acts uninterested, find someone who is. Don't drag yourself through this. If he acts kind and warm but keeps his hands to himself, then maybe he just is a moral guy. If he generally stays distant, then pick up your ball and go home. Find a new playmate. You are a smart girl. Listen to the facts, ignore your feelings, and do the right thing.
2007-01-05 12:57:19 · answer #4 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about maybe he doesn't have the same feeling for you as you have for him? He just want to be friends with you? Maybe you should just forget about him and move on to find some other guys since you can and you know it.
2007-01-05 12:57:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems as though the two of you need to communicate better. in order to do that, you have to ask him questions. you have to get him to answer each one honestly. ask him why he does not show affection to you in public. does he have a wife/girlfriend somewhere? does he want you? keep asking question after question until you understand him. then start stating what you want. tell him he can ask you questions too. i hope it gets better, because it seems that you are expending all your romantic energy on him and he may not want to give any of his to you. if so, tell him you are moving on to greener pastures.
2007-01-05 13:02:41 · answer #6 · answered by Louiegirl_Chicago 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he knows how you feel about him, then it shd be easy for you to just ask him how he feels about you. if he's shy, then you can make the moves. otherwise tell him that youre not interested if he doesnt really like you. its all or nothing.
2007-01-05 12:58:12 · answer #7 · answered by dumb.doll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need a new man, get rid of him. Hes gay but doesnt know or he has a V.D.
2007-01-05 12:58:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
May be he looks at you as a sister. May be he is gay. May be he is in love with some one else.
2007-01-05 12:56:27 · answer #9 · answered by observer 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
STOP WAITING FOR HIM TO MAKE THE FIRST MOVE. ATTACK........................
2007-01-05 12:56:22 · answer #10 · answered by FRECKLES 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋