It makes me not feel like myself because I don't get to spend time do the things that make me -me...
what should I do..
Just tell her No sometimes and let her be miserable?
2007-01-05 04:52:08 · 28 answers · asked by roy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Help her find things to fill her time while you are not with her. Showing you support her having a life of her own will make her a more confident person. Relationships are not about 2 lives becoming 1; they are about 2 people sharing 2 lives. The one thing found most common among people who cheat is that the people they cheat with are busier. They tend to lead more fulfilling lives than those of their partner. I would suggest to you that if you don't want to become disinterested and tired in the future, you talk with your girlfriend about finding friends. Suggest a day of the week where each of you goes your own way, does your own thing, and then meet and discuss what you did. You will find many rewards in this.
2007-01-05 05:02:28 · answer #1 · answered by Another Nickname 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that a partner is suppose to help you become a better person not make you wish you were somewhere else or with someone else. I think the best thing to do is let her know exactly how you feel, don't hold anything back. You obviously care about her because you're still there and you want to help her. God says help yourself so I can help you. Same should go for you. And just remember if shes miserable and you had nothing to do with it and you've tried to help her, let her be miserable by herlfself. Besides misery loves company and noone that I know loves misery and I'm assuming you don't either.
2007-01-05 13:00:40 · answer #2 · answered by Marianita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emotionally needy people are generally very insecure. Does she have any reason to be insecure in your relationship? Do you have a lot of close girl friends? Do you "go out with the guys" a lot? All these things are ok to do, but they could be the source of her insecurity. You need to sit her down and tell her how you feel. If you love her, tell her! Tell her that you really care about her, but that her needs are pushing you away. Tell her she has nothing to worry about. Good luck!
2007-01-05 12:57:40 · answer #3 · answered by skichamonix515 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not responsible for any ones happiness. If you let people make you responsible for their happiness you will feel terrible most of the time. Why? Because it is impossible to make someone happy, if they can not be happy with themselves. If they are depending on someone to make them happy, then they are too immature to be in a relationship. I am not saying never do any ting that she wants to do, you should have some give and take in your relationship. The give and take is on both sides, you each have to have some give and take. Right now it sounds a little lopsided, you are doing all of the giving and she is doing all of the taking. Good Luck.
2007-01-05 12:58:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look...the best advice i can give you is to be honest....let her know what you're feeling..im sure she doesn't want you to feel that way and she probably doesn't even realize that she is making you feel that way. I do suggest to set a day for eachother.Me and my husband have our Lucy Tuesdays...we dont do anything that day but spend time with eachother and end it with watching I Love lucy lol!! do something like that that will work for both of you...she'll feel special that you're setting some time aside just for her...ok well i hope i helped a little..Good Luck!!
2007-01-05 13:00:07 · answer #5 · answered by Cori 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't tell her no flat out. But you could talk to her about it and express your feelings about her being needy and what your needs are. Just be honest, otherwise one or both of you will continue to be miserable either way.
2007-01-05 12:55:38 · answer #6 · answered by Lowa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT LEAVE HER!!!!!!
Yu Know Yur Self She Is Miserable But Dumping her will just make her EVEN MORE!!!
Tell Her Soimetimes To Just Chill and think about the positive things in life and say "Im Really bummed just over EVERYTHING! right now...do you wanna go to that party or go get an icecream or watch a movie??"
That She Hopefully shell cheer up and youll be happy too!
:) Hopped I helped...But Please Dun Dump her Cuz Who Knoews....From What Yur Saying Suicide Could Be Around The Corner :'(...
Good Luck And Show Yur Spirit!!!!
2007-01-05 13:00:08 · answer #7 · answered by tickingclocks 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I would! If you spend all your time and energy on her you dont have any left for yourself. I would try talking to her first, if you have already and she is the same i would get rid of her because there are so many other women out there that arent like that! Good luck!
2007-01-05 12:56:41 · answer #8 · answered by Kristine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't be you in a relationship then, it just isn't worth having. The other person is supposed to enhance you, not hold you down and not make you the person that you are. Do not be afraid top Day no to her. Disappointment is a part of life.
2007-01-05 12:54:33 · answer #9 · answered by blueyedfaerydoll 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES by Gary Chapman. Maybe you aren't communicating in the most effective way to her. On the other hand she might just be such an imbalanced person that your best solution would be to leave her quickly.
2007-01-08 08:21:04 · answer #10 · answered by hasse_john 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋