VERY ANGRY when i think about how my ex used me, lied to me and just took advantage of my love. im trying to keep myself busy and realize this is a new year and everything...but i cant help these feelings of anger, frustrution and sadness from overtaking me. what to do?
2007-01-05 04:43:22 · 10 answers · asked by MsNic 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to go out and find a man who will treat you right. Granted, it is easier said than done, but once you find him, your sadness and anger will be replaced by happiness and joy.
2007-01-05 04:47:49 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Smooth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long ago did this occur? You need tome to heal. It sounds as though you are more upset with yourself than with him. You seem more bothered by the fact that you allowed this to happen than the fact that it happened. Being busy is not the idea so much as just getting over the fact that what happened is in the past and it won't happen again. Actually there is no guarantee that it won't, but hopefully you'll catch it sooner and it won't happen as often. Until you get in a good situation and are not afraid of getting burned, then you'll be bummed for some time to come. You have to hope that you have learned to read the signs and trust your feeling or that funny feeling that overcomes you. That funny feeling is most likely you subconscious telling you that it's about to happen again. All you're about to do now is watch the next guy like a hawk. He may be a nice guy and the real deal but you are in such a police state that he'll be under Marshall law the moment he asks you out. Just go out with no intentions of anything serious. Just date as much as you feel comfortable. Every date doesn't have to result in marriage. Just go to eat, a movie, to dance or what ever. when the guy comes along that is more than just an occasional companion, you'll be at ease and not at a orange level!
2007-01-05 12:52:28 · answer #2 · answered by Neptune 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anger, frustration,sadness are all part of the grieving process. We are only human and when emotions of loss come into play we have every right to feel all of these emotions. Separate yourself from the negativity and deal with you and only you. Once bitten twice shy. No need to berate yourself- it happens tune into some positive thoughts and pretty soon you will be whistling a new tune.
2007-01-05 12:51:18 · answer #3 · answered by sylviavnpttn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex took everything he could, lived with me for free, got me to buy him a car (it was cheap), and neglected all my feelings. But I stayed with him for 2 years only to come home from work to find that he had moved his stuff out and left. I was hurt, sad, angry at him and angry at myself but I picked myself up and put myself out there again but this time with a different attitude that I was going to be choosy about who I gave my love too. It was trial and error but my attitude made me feel that I was in complete control of my situation so when the jerk came crawling back I turned him away. It felt good to have that power over my actions.
It takes time but if you do things to make you feel good about yourself, you will realize that *he* was not worth your time and that you are better without him.
2007-01-05 12:54:37 · answer #4 · answered by CAITLIN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best advice I can give based on the limited info you gave us is to learn from your mistakes and move on. Don't make the same mistakes twice. Also, you may try learning to be a better judge of character. It's what I try to teach the girls in my family. Learn to observe tell-tale signs of a man's true character by the way he communicates with and treats others and by his everyday actions.
Good luck and best wishes!
2007-01-05 12:49:35 · answer #5 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may want to seek some professional help to talk this out. Also to help you in the future not get trapped in that same scenario that you were in. That happens so much too.
2007-01-05 12:47:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to keep yourself occupied with things or other people so as you dont have time to think about it. With time, you will eventually let go of those feelings.
2007-01-05 12:47:02 · answer #7 · answered by aaron 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not be hurt if my g/f used me and left.
If you're used and you're hurt, just try to do the same to couple of innocent guys it will really help you.
2007-01-05 13:36:36 · answer #8 · answered by hunga bunga 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a rebound. Also, you need to think about how much better you are for not allowing it to continue!
2007-01-05 12:46:17 · answer #9 · answered by tx girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
join a gym and get your frustration out while getting into better shape for your next relationship.
it worked for me!
2007-01-05 12:54:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋