ok for x-mas my boyfriend got me a promise ring. today we have been together for 10 months and i started school back so of course i told all my friends. well one of my friends is engaged and told me that he should have gotten me the promise ring earlier and that i needed to be getting engaged now! but i dont want to say something that might make her feel like im being offensive. what should i do?
2007-01-05 04:37:31 · 6 answers · asked by Lindsey T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well like shes already got an engagement ring and she feels like i should have gotten my promise ring earlier and she thinks that i should already be married like she is going to be. thats what i meant by it. and i didnt want to be like well im not ready for marriage and then her think that im getting smart with her and then us not being friends anymore!
2007-01-05 04:42:20 · update #1
yes we are both happy with things! and im sure whenever hes ready and im ready then we will but we havent been going out that long....or at least not long enough to get married!
2007-01-05 04:44:53 · update #2
A response is pointless!
I wouldn't respond to that. Thinking about a response would only make you questions your relationship needlessly, and just create static between you, your friend, and even your bf.
Sometimes silence speaks for itself.
If she had no real reason to make that comment, then she will in her own conciense realize that wasn't a very friend thing to say.
Everyone travels at their own pace, and marriage is a very delicate decision to make, if you take your time in getting there plus a little bit more, you will be better off.
10 mo. is not a long time, seems like it is the perfect time for a promise ring.
Keep your pace!
Don't rush just to keep up w/ your friend.
2007-01-05 05:06:48 · answer #1 · answered by milenka_b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should he have gotten you your ring earlier. He is moving in his time and you seem fine with it. She may have meant well or she may be one of those people who just tries to one up everyone around her. Are you happy? is you BF happy? then nothing else matters. Don't let it bother you. YOU owe her nothing. You shared your joy as a friend. She should have said congratulations and let it be at that. She erred in my humble opinion. You don't have to be rude, but you can just tell her point blank, I'm happy the way things are. Thanks for the input, but why should I rock a boat that isn't sinking. If you are my friend, then you will allow me to bask in the glow for now and wish me the best.
2007-01-05 04:43:12 · answer #2 · answered by Neptune 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've only been together for 10 months.... DEFINITLY TAKE IT SLOW! There is NO NEED to rush into a marriage. People who marry too early OFTEN and COMMONLY end in divorce. Be careful!!!
85% of marriages between the ages of 18-25 end in divorce! THATS ALOT!
2007-01-05 04:40:38 · answer #3 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just say how your feeling... if your happy with the primise ring just tell her that the promise ring is wonderful and you wouldn't trade it for another ring at all... also, if your in school, it's to early to get engaged....
2007-01-05 04:40:37 · answer #4 · answered by Junior1544 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT RUSH IT AND DONT LISTEN TO UR FRIENDS WHEN IT COMES TO UR RELATIONSHIPS.
JUST NOD UR HEAD IN AGREEMENT WITH HER AND CONTINUE TO DO WHAT YOU HAVE BEEN DOING IN YOUR OWN RELATIONSHIP.
2007-01-05 04:41:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont understand this ?
2007-01-05 04:40:27 · answer #6 · answered by Xtina12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋