Before I met my girlfriend, she had just come out a 3 year relationship. We have been together for almost 1 year now. The ex is still a good friends with her. I know I have to give her time to get over the relationship. But how long do I wait? I am truly in love this girl and would love to plan a future with her. I have let her know what my feelings are to her. I feel that this is the "one" girl for me.
2007-01-05 04:29:52 · 16 answers · asked by mrniceguy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Then tell her. Tell her that her 'friendship' with her ex makes you uncomfortable and you see yourself with her for a very long time and see what she says. If she's not on the same page as you then you have a tough decision to make.
2007-01-05 04:32:46 · answer #1 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a difficult situation. my ex and i broke up and she wanted to be friends, this means now she can do whatever she wants anytime and has no obligation to me whatsoever. at the same time i thought we had a chance to get back with her so i stayed friends for a few months and she would just come and sleep over when she has nothing to do or is bored, basically she was just using me. I realize the true person she is and now we ignore each other and have never called each other for over 6 months now. the ex bf your gf has may be thinking the same thing that they will get back together again. find out what she thinks about you first, does she love you, like you, think of you as a friend, what?? also, how much time does she spend with him? do they go out on sat nights? go for a coffee?? what are her ties with him?? i'd give it a little more time, and i hope she eventually stops talking with him. as long as they are not hugging and kissing and/or sleeping together then stay with her but make sure the feeling is mutual between you and her. if she truly loves you then you should trust her, dont be jealous either girls dont like that. if the relationship between you two gets better and if she spends less time talking to her ex then stay together, if not then break it off within a few months before you get hurt.
2007-01-05 12:39:51 · answer #2 · answered by Butter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you have to ask yourself if you could handle a relationship where, in the long term, her ex is going to be a very important part of her life. In other words, can you overcome your own anxieties about the fact that someone she was once intimate with is going to be around her when you are around and when you are not.
By the tone of your question, it sounds as though she has resisted taking the next step in your relationship that you are more than willing to take. While her feelings for her ex probably have something to do with that, it might also be that she is not ready to make that step, regardless. She came out of a three year relationship and probably has enjoyed her new found freedom.
In any event, I would sit down with her very soon and talk about where the two of your think this is going. Beware that you may not like the answer, but in the long run, you will be better off for having heard it.
2007-01-05 12:39:22 · answer #3 · answered by tambar@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are, but I think you still need some more time to realize, that there are still so many other nice girls around. I think she is still hoping to get her ex back. Otherwise she would have given you a sign. If I were you, I would ignore her for some time... wait and see. If she is really interested in you, she will show up and ask " why you disapered" ? don't run behind her.. good luck !!!
2007-01-05 12:43:48 · answer #4 · answered by seda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand what you mean by "...give her time to get over...how long do I wait". Are you asking about being accepting of her still talking to her ex or does she still talk about the old relationship a lot? Give additional info.
2007-01-05 12:34:40 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the previous relationship did not work , then why is she "good friends" with him. obvioulsy she is not over the relationship so you just have to sit down with her and talk everything out. tell her to be honest. in my opinion, she is just rebound dating with you. you have been dating one year and you still feel that she is not over the ex. good luck and do not settle for leftovers. either she plans a future with you or you plan a future with someone else. tell her to not waste your time.
2007-01-05 12:34:02 · answer #6 · answered by sweetbeba05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might not feel the same way about you and she probably still cares about the other guy specially if he is still in the picture. You should go for it to find out, but be careful don't get put your hopes up. You will never know until you tell her that you need to know if she is ready for you. Good luck bro.
2007-01-05 12:55:24 · answer #7 · answered by Dave 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would have thought that if she wasnt over the relationship you 2 wouldnt still be together. i am still very good friends with 2 of my ex's but it dosnt mean i am not over the relationship, infact totally the oppsite! the best thing you can do is talk to her about it. or if your really brave, pop the question!
2007-01-05 12:33:04 · answer #8 · answered by caz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well patience is a virtue but it could also cause you to lose her,lose the ex because you know ex's they sneak around wait till your gone than they have Pity sex or whatever it
's called
2007-01-05 12:36:57 · answer #9 · answered by Victorio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no time like NOW! It's been a year, go for it!
2007-01-05 12:32:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋